We just had a wedding in our family (my husbands side) where my daughter was the flower girl, my other daughter was a jr bridesmaid, and my husband was a groomsman. Plus the trip, the whole thing cost us a lot of money. Another cousin (on my side of the family) is getting married and asked me to be a bridesmaid, my daughter to be the flower girl, my son to be the ring berrer, and oldest daughter to be a jr bridesmaid. I told her I could not afford all of that, but I would love to be there for her. Then I thought of the dress I have for my youngest.
Would it be tacky or inappropriate to reuse the flower girl dress for the second wedding and let my daughter participate?
Something else to consider, the brides family of the first wedding bought the flower girl dress. It was very expensive and they knew we were already out a lot of money.
Please help!
2007-01-04 03:51:03 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's a very practical idea. In fact, my nieces will be reusing the dresses from my wedding for another niece's wedding. Congratulations.
2007-01-04 04:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly appropriate to reuse a flower girl dress. I am 26 now, but when I was a child I was a "professional flower girl." I had special dresses made because I was asked to be in so many weddings (I was one of the few little girls in my church congregation so I was asked all the time). I had 2 dresses - one for winter weddings and one for spring weddings, which I used numerous times.
It's not tacky at all considering that a dress for a small girl sometimes costs as much as a bridesmaid dress these days. And most of the time, the flower girl doesn't appear in many of the wedding photos - no one will notice. You should ask your cousin if you can reuse the dress (hopefully the colors will match so it won't be a problem) - otherwise just tell her that you can't afford to buy your daughter yet another dress that she will outgrow in just a year's time.
2007-01-04 08:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately not inappropriate as long as the dress matches the color scheme of the wedding. Everyone always has that problem of "I bought the dress (or now own it) and have no place else to wear it too", it's a perfect way to reuse an expensive gown. Not to mention young girls love getting dressed up anyway. As a very broke college student I understand the whole situation of being asked to be in a wedding and then being expected to pay for all the dresses and etc.
I would say to ask your family if it is okay with them. Explain the situation to them and show them the dress. I can't see any reason for them to say no. If they do, politely tell them then she wont be able to be part of the wedding. But I highly doubt they will say no unless it horribly clashes with the rest of the wedding party!
2007-01-04 04:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by afichick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the bride from the second wedding before you make any decisions either way. But I would have to say that I think it's fine, as long as the dress won't look out of place and the bride likes it. And I'm sure the second bride will understand, weddings are expensive, especially when you ask an entire family to be involved. Good luck and I hope the dress works out!
2007-01-04 05:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldnt be inappropriate at all! If she wants your daughter to be the flower girl and she approves of the dress there should be no problem at all! However if she does not like the dress, or it does not go with the colors of her wedding I would not push it any further then a suggestion!
2007-01-04 03:55:14 · answer #5 · answered by airforce_wife09102002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a great and economical idea! My friend just got married and she had her two nieces as flower girls. The older girl was 7 and was making her first communion this year. So, the dress was both her communion dress and flower girl dress. They just got a blue sash to match the bridesmaids' dresses and they were good to go! Especially if its a beautiful, expensive dress, let her have a great reason to wear it again! Good luck!
2007-01-04 04:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would check with the bride and see if she likes the dress you have and amke sure it goes ok with her colors, theme, etc...but I wouldn't have the first problem with that....Those things are ridiculously expensive for something a kid is gonna outgrow quickly! I would think that it would be fine, if my flower girl already had a dress I liked-I darn sure would say get some more use out of it!
2007-01-04 05:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they look great together! Whether or not they match is really just a personal preference. I think it looks nice either way. My dress is Ivory and lacey but the dress I picked for my flower girl is actually lavender. My Bridesmaid dresses are plum so I decided it looked nice with a lighter purple shade. The one you picked does look great with your dress though, so I say go for it! Congrats on the wedding!
2016-05-23 02:44:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if that's such a good idea...typically the flower girl's dress is either going to be a miniature version of the bridesmaid dresses or the bridal gown. It would be rather tacky and obvious to use one from one wedding at another wedding (unless of course the same style is being worn).
2007-01-04 03:59:28 · answer #9 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't think it is inappropriate. The dress will never be worn again by your daugther you might as well get more use out of the expensive dress. I would hope that your family would just be happy that you are there to spend the special day with them.
2007-01-04 03:56:59 · answer #10 · answered by Brian and Kari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋