how to cope?

Question

i lost my mum due to puluminary fibrosis on the 13th dec i still cant beleive she is gone . how do i come to terms with it?

Answer 1

My condolensces. I'm sorry boo, it will be ok.
As backward as this may seem…your probably already in a coping process. The release of grief is crying which can facilitate your grieving process. There is “a time to weep,” says the Bible. (Ecclesiastes 3:1, 4) Surely the death of someone we love brings on such a time. Shedding tears of grief appears to be a necessary part of the healing process.

1.) Create a lasting memory – scrapbook of all the “good times” or even collage a video of different clips of only her, this will keep her memory alive in your heart and mind
2.) Keep a favorite picture up of how you’d like to remember her
4.) I find that excercise, prayer and meditation help greatly.
5.) I also recommend: talking about your feelings to someone you trust, or a therapist.
6.) Some other things you can try is invigorating your senses and raising your endorphins it pulls you out of a depressed state. en•dor•phin (ěn-dôr'fĭn) : Any of a group of peptide hormones that bind to opiate receptors and are found mainly in the brain. Endorphins reduce the sensation of pain and affect emotions. Other things you can try on a daily basis: helping others with much bigger problems than you (homeless, cancer or burn patients, elderly, etc.) Pamper yourself, Comfort others who have also lost a loved one in death, eat your fave dessert or meal, lighting a scented candle, taking a bubble bath, taking a jog.

Simply put when you heighthen your endorphins (your happy hormones / chemical balances) you give yourself a chance to view things from a more positive perspective. You can hold fast to the HOPE and have FAITH that God will follow through with his promise.

In addition, do not underestimate the value of prayer. The Bible urges us: “Throw your burden upon Jehovah himself, and he himself will sustain you.” (Psalm 55:22) If talking out your feelings with a sympathetic friend can help, how much more will pouring out your heart to “the God of all comfort” help you!—2 Corinthians 1:3.
It is not that prayer simply makes us feel better. The “Hearer of prayer” promises to give holy spirit to his servants who sincerely ask for it. (Psalm 65:2; Luke 11:13) And God’s holy spirit, or active force, can equip you with “power beyond what is normal” to go from one day to the next. (2 Corinthians 4:7) Remember: God can help his faithful servants to endure any and every problem they may face.

Also, please go to this site for comfort during your mourning, when someone you love dies. This site will answer questions like: Why do we die? What happens to us after we die? Why me? or How do I cope with my grief?

http://www.watchtower.org/library/we/art...