How do you get over men?

Question

Hey, I am 16 and I am having a really BIG problem gettin over my ex. Can you help me by telling me ways to get over him?

Answer 1

Don't call him
Ignore his calls
Don't think of reasons to call him
Ignore all text messages and don't listen to his voice mails (just press delete!!)
Go through your phone and delete all his numbers (cell, home, work, etc)
Delete all old text messages/emails/voice mails
Delete him from your myspace, messenger, or address book
Throw away ALL pictures, clothing, and items that remind you of him (okay you can keep one pic...lol)
Don't answer any strange numbers where he might call you
Don't feel sorry for him (he will try to make you feel bad)
Don't drive by his house
Don't explain anything to him, leave him wondering 4ever.........
Don't look his way or even acknowledge him in public
You may need some time alone to regroup, DONT!!! run out and find someone new. That will only make things worse.
Start giving yourself a little more TLC
Do something you enjoy or get involved in new activities (be creative)
Try to stay as busy as possible and away from Him!!
Spend more time with family (that is what's most important)
Start concentrating more on school, focus on your grades
Treat yourself to the spa or buy a new outfit
Get a hair cut or styled, maybe have your nails/toes done
Get out with close friends that you trust and care for your well being. Then go out to eat or watch a movie with these friends.
Start loving yourself more and the people that truly care for you
You are 16?? So look for a part-time job that doesn't conflict with school....
There are tons of things that you could do; you just have to work IT!! I too have been in your situation and know Exactly how you feel, (it isn't easy) it just takes time and A LOT of willpower. That's IF your truly sincere about getting over him, if not then I know you will do it when you’re ready.
Best of Luck!!

Answer 2

Being only 16 makes me think this is the first real heart break you've had. It's the hardest to get over.

Try and see your ex as he is, not as what you wanted him to be. Time is the great healer, and being so young you don't know that circumstances may bring you together again. Take the time to have fun while you can and be a teen. LOL

Answer 3

Just thank God you are very young, because the older you get and I mean past your thirties it gets a lot harder. First, learn from your past mistakes and make sure you do not do them again, keep yourself busy read books on how to improve your self there is always room for improvement no matter how old you are. Go out with your friends, but do not jump into any relationship right away let yourself get over the pain, and before you know it when someone mentions his name, you will be saying blah, blah WHO!

Answer 4

1. Don't call him. (If you do, stick to casual convo...like the weather, news, etc.)
2. Spend time with other ppl. Try not to be alone.
3. When you start reminiscing, go watch a movie...nothing mushy though. Whatever you do, don't watch the holiday!

If nothin works get another guy to replace this one. That's the easy, way out...but the emotions and feelings are still there. Sucks in the end, but it is a quick fix.

Answer 5

When I broke up with my ex- I had the same problem- you just can't get over them !! But then I invented this 3 step system and it works:

1. Me time: Once you're in a relation... you become a "we" from a "me..." you make all your decisions together... even decide which topping to take on your ice cream. MAKE YOUR OWN DECISIONS !!

2. Hang out with friend 'he' hates: My ex used to hate some one my very close friends and I stopped seeing them or hanging out with them. But once I stopped dating him... I would go out with my girlfriends... watch movies... have girly luncheons... go to the saloon together and so on...

3. Do things 'he' hated: I went out... did things I wanted to do which my ex didn't want me to do... go spend 3 hours getting my hair done... go buy designer handbags (which I thought were classy and he thought were a waste of money)

and be yourself... try not to think to much about it... and follow the RULES !!

Answer 6

I never had a boyfriend that young. So I would assume you cry to songs that make you think of him. Then eat something like icecream. Think the world could end. Go to bed. Wake up and maybe feel better the next week.
Oh and talk about it with girlfriends. Go out have fun.

Answer 7

Hi There!

Clear everything out of your life that reminds you of him.
1) Pictures, songs, clothing articles, other personal items - everything must go!

2) Commit completely to getting over him. If you allow yourself to have doubts, or be weak, it will drag on and on. Repeat over and over to yourself - I don't need him.

3) Get out and meet people. If possible, try to meet another special somene. Having a new man in your life is the best way to forget about someone. Not only will they keep you busy, they'll put in your mind all the good things your ex never did, or the bad things your ex did but your new boyfriend doesn't.

4) Hang out with your girlfriends as much as possible. They'll help you get through it, listen to you rant, keep your mind off things, and eat ice cream with you. Plus, you'll remember how much you like them all, and how fun they are.

5) Write 20 or more of your good qualities and keep reading them over and over, adding as you think of some. It's important to remember that you are a beautiful, amazing person and you will find love again.

6) Let time pass. The more it goes, the easier it will get. Time DOES heal all.
Just remember...there's a reason why he's out of your life! Be free!
Tips:

1) Try to avoid going to places where you and your ex used to go.

2) Avoid the songs that remind you of him.

3) Make a playlist with lots of angry songs on it - especially ones that remind you of annoying things your ex did. Whenever you feel nostalgic, listen to it!

4) Concentrate on his weaknesses, both physical and personal. If he had ugly hairy hands, imagine them daily and think about how gross they were. If he was selfish, think about it often, saying things to yourself like "Man, *so and so* was so completely selfish...what a jerk. I"m so glad I don't have to put up with his egoistic, immature behavior anymore." You will feel like you dated a total loser.

6) Do NOT contact him or let him contact you. You'll just go rushing back to square one. You might ask a girlfriend to help you stop talking to him, whether by reminding you or talking to you whenever you feel tempted. You can also write out long personal journal entries or letters (that you don't send) if you really feel like you need to get something off your mind.

REMEMBER : Everyone has been through this & everyone gets through it. You might think you're alone, and it's too hard, but it will get easier and you will be happier.
Expand your social network.

If your conversations with him have made you uncomfortable, talk on email and save the conversation. Reading over the hurtful comments he has made will help you remember why you need to get rid of this guy.

Answer 8

well its pretty obvious he du,ped you...right?? so have a little respect for yurslef and just tell him off!!!! it sounds mean but im telling you you will feel SO MUCH BETTER....i know you dont wanna do anything that will ruin a chance you might have getting back together with him...but there is no use trying ...if you two didnt work once its not gunna work

Answer 9

Girl you are so young move on hang out with your friends shop that helps to

Answer 10

I let time do its thing and I go out to take my mind off of him. Hope you have good friends to entertain you.