So, my wife wanted to go to her moms for dinner last night and I didn't. She then mentioned making dinner at home and watching a movie, So I changed into my pajamas and went to the couch. A few minutes later, she gets her coat, purse, keys and leaves, without saying anything to me. I wait 45 minutes and put my clothes on and head over to my buddy's house for Wed night poker. I'm there about 15 minutes and my phone rings, it's her, she's at home and just needed a number, I said, I thought you went to the mommas, she said no, went to the store.... I said okay and she said okay and we hung up. I got home about 10:30 and she was already in bed... I showered and went to the couch, as I didn't want to wake her up... ( she is a light sleeper ). This morning, she gets up and ready for work, doesn't say a word to me, so I didn't speak to her either. During our workdays, we always email each other, but nothing today....
2007-01-04 03:39:23 · 15 answers · asked by jairman2004 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Should I speak to her first or should I just wait her out and let her come to me?
I didn't do anything wrong...
2007-01-04 03:40:11 · update #1
Well, if you don't want there to be a fight brewing, always assume the posture as if you did something wrong and reach out to be kind. That is, if you don't want problems. It's kind of like you have to ask yourself, "Do I want to be happy, or do a want to be right?"
I'm seeing that you don't think you did anything wrong, but it's looking like she might. I would sure be easier to say something to head it off at the pass. Why not, "I hope we didn't get our signals crossed last night. I didn't mean to tick you off by going out. I thought you were going over to your mom's. I don't want to have a fight. Are we okay?" You can probably make it all right by making plans to do something together tonight. We love it when men actually take steps to plan an evening. How about an e-mail that says, "Hi. Having a good day? How about we go to dinner at so-and-so's tonight and then catch that movie you've been wanting to see?"
2007-01-04 03:45:00 · answer #1 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well silence is never a good thing, if she doesn't say anything at all it usually means somethings wrong and you should talk to her. You probably should have gone to her moms for dinner, just as a nice gesture. relationships are about sometimes doing things you dont want to along with the things you do. Next time go with if she asks to go to dinner with her parents. Talk to her, you should probably say something soon before things get worse or out of hand.
2007-01-04 03:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya big baby! You sure you were ready to get married??? You two need a lesson in communication.
You didn't say if you answered her about dinner at home and a movie, but it sounds like you made a bad assumption thinking she'd gone to mom's, when she had just said dinner at home. She should have said she was going to the store, but if you weren't 100% sure she was at mama's, you should've called her on her cell phone to check. Jeezzz is this so hard?
2007-01-04 03:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by Savvy Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm Catholic. after I first began going to a Catholic church, I felt style of like an intruder merely because all and multiple else knew what to assert, even as, and that i did not. you'll study all of that in time, do not worry about it. really, merely stick with alongside. Do what others do (status, kneeling etc) and pay interest to the Homily. a strong thanks to study about it and meet different new human beings to the church is to bypass by the RCIA type. i imagine you may want to easily contact the church's non secular ed branch.
2016-12-01 19:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the phase when ego comes up in between
Anyways, Look you can get up to her FIRST.
Think it like as if she wished a lot to visit her Mom's house but becoz u refused she had to leave her plan to visit there as well, this could also mean that maybe u dont care for wat she wants.
And for this reason u should go FIRST.
Just call her up and just ask her for a dinner at some hotel.
And then left the things to theirselves, She will be happy .....
And I guess it will give u happiness to u too.......!
2007-01-04 04:19:52 · answer #5 · answered by nextgenerationy2k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should say something first. I know you think you didn't do anything wrong so you should talk to her about what happened. I know it isn't easy to talk about things but it will be good for you and your relationship to get everything out in the open and well if you apologize (even though you think you did nothing wrong) then you are the bigger person.
But at least talk to her about this.
2007-01-04 03:44:22 · answer #6 · answered by drunken_monkey1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely have a communication problems. Make her some sweet cinnamon rolls and a coffee. You need to talk. Be the aggressor.
2007-01-04 03:42:20 · answer #7 · answered by seevers1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should take the higher ground and talk first send her some flowers and just say thinking of you or something like that and then next time go home when she gets back home
2007-01-04 03:42:12 · answer #8 · answered by stupid_600000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her a big bunch of flowers and a bottle of wine and sit and drink the wine and discuss where the problem is. It may be that you wouldn't go with her to her mom's....
2007-01-04 03:42:16 · answer #9 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should go and talk to her, be honest and open with her, women don't like fighting, so if you just open up and ask her if there was anything you did wrong, and if you did do anything wrong, you guys should talk to her! Good Luck!!
2007-01-04 03:45:01 · answer #10 · answered by ashkb93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋