I know this is stupid, but i want my sweet revenge on her. My revenge on my hubby is divorce. She knew he was married and had even met his whole family at a unit xmas party in 05. She slept with him from apr 06-aug 06. I really want to wreck her career cuz she wrecked my family and i know adultery is against the law in the military, but if i go that route, it will burn my hubby as well, and i need him to have his job for child support. I know this is stupid and childish and i should let it go, but when people mess with me, i dont get mad, i get even. any legal, annonymous ideas. i'm sure in the end she'll know i'm behind it, but she'll just have to wonder, wont she?
2007-01-04 03:38:36 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Thats an article 15 and if one out ranks the other thats WORSE, if you persue it...
2007-01-04 03:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by Gee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all she didn't do anything to you, honestly. She is not the one that stood before God and everybody vowing to love, honor and cherish you, forsaking all others. He did.
If you are on a diet and eat chocolate cake is it the cakes fault or yours? Marriage is the diet and she was the cake. I would divorce him and AFTER you get over it find someone that you can begin a new life with.
Proving adultry in the military is not very easy. Even if you did, all that would happen is a repremand in their file. Unless one is commanded by the other then more may happen.
Revenge often feels great at the time, but we often regret it for one reason or another later on.
2007-01-04 06:50:35 · answer #2 · answered by e.sillery 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your anger is completely natural. But whatever you do legally, can impact your ex and the money as you pointed out. Maybe you can contact her husband ( since she was married) in case he does not know.
All in all though, do not let yourself get pulled down by the hate towards her. Start a life a new with your child (ren). Maybe contact a pastor or a priest to express your feelings. Once you are free of the anger and hate, you will feel much better.
Hope it works out for you.
2007-01-04 03:49:57 · answer #3 · answered by SS90 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can go to the Command with this, but do you really think the CO is gong to really do anything? I mean, come on, don't you think the Command has better things to do than look into who is sleeping with who?
Besides, military Commands hear this stuff all the time, yours is just another one to them. Also, do you have proof? Real proof, like pictures of them doing the "wild thing"? Thats the only thing that will stand up.
I've had young ladies come to me with the same stories numerous times. I tell them gently to seek civilian legal counsel. If they become a real nag about it and continue to call over and over, I make my recommendations to the CO to transfer the guy to another unit for a short time until this blows over.
And, yes this is stupid, cut your losses, move on to bigger and better things.
2007-01-04 14:11:44 · answer #4 · answered by jonn449 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it truly is a topic in a good number of of the protection stress service branches, possibly extra so contained in the Marines because of the interior way of existence. this is all a question of what moves are allowed by the administration and that are suppressed. human beings are not allowed to rape and sexually harass human beings contained in the civilian global, and that is because the powers that be easily implement those guidelines. for sure, the guidelines are not being enforced contained in the Marines, from the bottom degrees to the optimal. After some human beings lost their jobs, you may want to quickly locate that the point of rape and harassment might want to be about a similar because it truly is interior something of the inhabitants.
2016-12-01 19:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you could take it to his command and ruining his career especially if they are in the same unit/command etc. But I would just go with the divorce and leave it at that. She'll know why you left him. Word spreads around, there are no secrets in the military.
2007-01-04 03:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me.... You are fighting yourself with this. IT has nothing to do with HER. Your Husband made the choice... and you can't blame HER for your Husband violating his vows to you. If you need the child support ... but more importantly ... the children need their Father in there life.... Suck it up, get some counseling, be strong... You will go through so much through this divorce - you will not have time to "get even." The best way to get even is... get on with your life and show the Husband... You can do it on your OWN. Plus, start doing something he always wanted you to do and you didn't feel like you had to.... For example... if he always wanted to see you in a mini skirt... while going through your divorce- him picking up the kids... have a mini skirt on to "get even".... Don't waste your energy or time running after some chic.... it ain't worth it. By the way, all sins will surface in one's heart.... You don't need to be responsible for managing the pain they will suffer.
2007-01-04 03:53:54 · answer #7 · answered by hrfrontman 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge is living well. Get the divorce but show them you're not going to dwell on this mess and move on.
2007-01-04 03:51:24 · answer #8 · answered by onelo150 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can divorce him and notify his chain of command. If you can prove in court that it happened, then they can be judicially punished, even chaptered out of the military. You will have to take him to court for benefits and chances are you will get everything if favor is ruled for you.
2007-01-04 10:16:07 · answer #9 · answered by SkyShark 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Were you like this before this happened? If you are always this vindictive, then no wonder he cheated on you. He probably wanted out of the relationship. I'm sorry to insult you, but your reaction is very immature and downright spooky. If you do not want to sue him for support, then the best thing you can do is just let it go and move on. If necessary, get some therapy. If you seek out the do harm to her, it will come back and bite you. I guarantee it. I'm sorry this happened to you, and I know it hurts. But it will keep on hurting so long as you keep dragging it out, and that is all you are doing by seeking out revenge. Grow up, move on, and get over it.
2007-01-04 03:49:55 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋
It is childish.
If you NEED your husband for child support (one should try to never NEED that for your own benefit) than leave well enough alone.
If you NEED revenge - than you have a lot more growing up to do and maybe shouldn't have custody of a child.
2007-01-04 04:03:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋