my boyfriend don't know if he loves me and he keeps talking about his past i need help i don't know what to do shuld i wait for him to find himself or face the pain and wait..i love him alot but now im lost please help??
2007-01-04 03:38:32 · 2 answers · asked by Chi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Before you begin considering any extreme step such as letting him go, try talking to him about your feelings. An honest, open conversation might help.
You shouldn't have to wait forever for him to figure out what he wants or what he feels about you. Yet dumping him right away isn't the right thing to do either.
Try and let him know clearly how you feel and how it's been hurting you lately. Tell him you appreciate his inability to figure things out. He might be just a bit depressed or pre-occupied with other priorities in life. So, you may have to as considerate and understanding as is adequate.
If he's unwilling to discuss or doesn't seem to convincingly give you an honest answer, you may then have to move on with your life. It just isn't easy. But, you can't allow indecisiveness bother you too much. You shouldn't have to suffer the pain of not knowing what's in store.
One of the things you may have to do is explicitly ask him to stop worrying about his past. He has to learn to move on with his life. Let him know that what's ahead of him is more important to his own well-being. Whether you're a part of his life or not, this is probably your best advise to him. I'm sure he'll eventually appreciate that.
Good luck darling :-)
2007-01-04 04:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl are you kiddin'. What? is he playing hard to get? He probably thinks too much of himself. Don't let him or anyone stoop your self-esteem, gurl. Let him go. Please for your sake. He isn't worth it. He can't decide if he loves you or not?! (see now you got me all worked up. lol.)
2007-01-04 11:51:16 · answer #2 · answered by Bronte 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋