Ok, so there is this guy that I really, really like. I know that he likes me too. He told me this a while ago. However now he has a girlfriend. I really don't want to ruin their relationship, but I really can't get the guy off my mind. He told me that if he breaks up with her we can be together. But I don't know how long this is going to take, and I really don't want to wait. Please, try and help me, it's the first time after so long that I might actually be falling in love :)
2007-01-04 03:32:28 · 27 answers · asked by Full Blown Rose 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Umm...there is one more detail. We don't live in the same cities. We meet once a month or something like that. But after the summer he is really likely to move and live in my city (he might fo to the university here).
2007-01-04 03:45:16 · update #1
Does it make him bad if he doesn't want to be alone, while we can't be together all the time?
And I've tried to forget him and move on, but it simply doesn't work :(
2007-01-04 03:50:43 · update #2
well, don't feel guilty about ruining a relationship for they are not married yet anyway, it will be bad if you will ruin someone's marriage.
just go for it, follow your heart and don't be afraid of trying something you don't know yet after all love or loving a person doesn't happens all the time...
2007-01-04 03:38:48 · answer #1 · answered by guRl 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
How can you be falling in love with someone that your not even dating. He has a girlfriend already. Stop pushing yourself on him, I know you have or he would not have said that if he breaks up with the other girl, then you two could be together. If your waiting, you doing the wrong thing. Stay out of that relationship, do not try and break them up, what goes around will come around. The guy might be just keeping you waiting. If he does start dating you, he will probably have another waiting to take your place. As long as he has one waiting, he can considers that he does not have to be true to none, he will just go to the next one. Fine one that you do not have to wait for.
2007-01-04 03:43:03 · answer #2 · answered by m c 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may be falling, but I doubt you're in love. And if you accept this guy, it's just a matter of time before he finds someone else more interesting and breaks up with you to be with them. As for now, you're the girl waiting in the wings in the event the relationship he is in now doesn't work out. Get the picture?! You don't have any idea how long it'll take for him to get bored with his current girl and he only said 'if' he breaks up with her. You're selling yourself short and allowing someone to make you a second class citizen. I suggest you find someone else. Some guy out there would be totally happy for you to be his girlfriend....if you'd just get moving. Good Luck
2007-01-04 03:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really liked you, then wouldn't he break up with his gf now to be with you? Why are you just waiting?? I was in the same situation before but when the guy I liked broke up with his gf after 6 months... I wasn't interested anymore. The wait just made me sour and while I was waiting, I reevaluated my decision to wait. The guy who truly is interested in you won't put you on hold, he would break up with the other girl after meeting you.
While he is in a relationship... he told you he likes you? I think that's sketchy... good guys aren't still looking around while they have a gf.
Be sensible and look at the facts. I know it's hard when you like someone so much, but to me - it looks like you need to reconsider your feelings for this guy. Don't put your life on hold, think of all the great guys you could be meeting while you're waiting for this guy to break up with his gf. Get him off your mind, find a new hobby... because you're saying you've fallen in love after so long, it means that you're now open to relationships... meet new people. .
2007-01-04 03:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by Sydney M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Back off already. Hes taken. Dont make someone elses life miserable in search for your own happiness, thats just plain selish. Go ahead fall in love, but while he is taken, you have to love him from a distance.
I thought I was in love with a married man when I was married and thought of him often too, but I never acted on this since we both belonged to someone else and he never did know of these feelings and never will and I was a faithful wife. And guess what those feeling passed. It was just a phase.
2007-01-04 03:41:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not wait for a guy who tells you IF he breaks up with his girlfriend you can be together. IF HE wanted to be with you he would have already broken up with his girlfriend.
Do not wait for him. Get on with life. DO not see him anymore, do not talk to him anymore, get him out of your mind. If he does break up with his girlfriend then you can start talking to him again and see what happens. Bottom line is you don't want to completely fall for this guy while he is taken and then you are in a worse situation and may make bad choices.
2007-01-04 03:36:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, i might by no ability attempt to interrupt up a dating, flirt with a guy it truly is in a dating or get a guy to cheat on his lady, I hate ladies like that. yet, it truly is to not say i haven't liked a boy whilst he had a female pal. Like final 3 hundred and sixty 5 days there replaced into this guy I sort of liked , yet I merely permit it slide. Then he have been given a female pal and that i began liking him greater. perhaps it truly is because of the fact we adore what we gained't have? Who is prevalent with. i don't think of everybody can parent us ladies out.
2016-10-19 11:15:48 · answer #7 · answered by bridgman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else but if he is saying WHEN I break up with her then their relationship might not be that great but don't let yourself get caught up you will wind up hurt or missing out on a great guy if you just sit around waiting for him to get rid of her so live your life and if it is meant to be it will be
2007-01-04 03:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has a girlfriend, but yet seems to be uninterested in her. so my guess is he just waiting for something from the girlfriend [meaning sex perhaps?] then will probably move on to you. just sit yourself in the girlfriend's place, how would you feel if your boyfriend broke up with you for some girl he liked before you. i mean, if he could do it to her, how about when you two are together? wouldn't you think that he'd also do the same?
and if he really wanted to be with you wouldn't you think he would've left her a LONG time ago? think about it.
2007-01-04 03:38:10 · answer #9 · answered by T-NEE 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should get some friends, that way you wont be intruding on their relationship- AT THE SAME TIME, if he reallllly likes you, he will fear that your new friend(s) will take you away from him (being with you in the future) and that will cause him to end the current relationship to make sure he doesnt lose you.
2007-01-04 03:38:27 · answer #10 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋