and i'm to the point i wanna end it iasked him to stop, but it always an excuse i smoke , but he also smokes and wants me to quit smoking mind you he'll still be smoking. my thing is you have two bad habits to my one so you need to get rid of one them the two of us can work on the smoking. So to make a long story i'm sick and tired should i leave him alone? If he doesnt care why should i? we can't even have sex right with a limp dick HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11
2007-01-04 03:25:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have given him a choice, and the choice was the bottle. I'm not trying to change him i'm trying to help. I mean if your doc told u to stop what should u do? I mean that's cool too he can get rid of me that would be great cause ain't **** going on anyway.
2007-01-04 03:34:21 · update #1
I wanna also thank everyone for the great answers.*
2007-01-04 03:35:43 · update #2
I also have three kids not his thank the lord, but how is that gonna go over? My son is 12 and my girls are 10 and 8
2007-01-04 03:36:44 · update #3
Well guys i'm back i found a bottle (empty) in his shoe, and he's been on the couch the last 3 days what is really going on? Should i put up with this abuse?
2007-01-06 05:38:22 · update #4
Be careful, or the one habit he may get rid of is you.
2007-01-04 03:28:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you've answered your own question.
He is drinking much too much (I know, I've been there and done that).
Smoking isn't good either. But, you have to take one thing at a time.
However, he will not quit unless he actually wants to. He must say, "I want to quit drinking." That's the first step. He must want to do it.
That doesn't seem to be happening right now.
It's up to you. What do you want your life to be like over the next few years. It sounds as if things might be pretty bad now, it probably won't get better unless something changes.
Good Luck!
2007-01-04 11:33:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously if he drinks til he has no control of his man stick, then he has a problem. I mean. the limp think is really irritating! How bout you give him an ultimatum, if he chooses the booze over you then he's not worth having. Or maybe you could just ask him to drink less- I think thats a good idea. Allow him to drink, just set a limit, that way he can have control of his mind and BODY!
2007-01-04 11:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes dear, you should leave him...and as soon as possible. What he is asking you to do is unfair. Alcoholics will never change(well, most don't anyway). Find someone that will be good to you. Sounds like you deserve a lot better than what you have now.
Good luck!
2007-01-04 11:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by TexasRose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the world of alcoholism. He's not going to change unless HE wants to change.
He's giving a bad example to your children. For their sake. Leave.
2007-01-04 11:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by allisoneast 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him...if he doesn't learn from you leaving then I guess he never really loved you.
2007-01-04 11:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on--dump him...
U CANNOT CHANGE A MAN
they are who they are -- accept it or move on
2007-01-04 11:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by sunbun 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋