do you think that you can be "numb" to feelings such as love, etc.?

Question

I was hurt pretty badly by my ex and my ex before that and my ex before that....lol.... anyway since then I feel like I have put up a "shield" to protect myself and don't let myself get to "crazy" over a guy.. Does anyone else feel this way?

Answer 1

I have never felt like that. Get yourself in order before you venture off into the same situation with another person. Having confidence and good self-esteem will bring those types of people to you. They can sense it when you don't feel good about yourself and you will attract those who will ensure that feeling in you. Wait a while, until somebody worthy comes along!

Answer 2

Maybe your problem is that you paid too much attention to your own ego and how you were feeling, and thus you didn't see your former partners clearly, and you haven't dealt with that. You're gonna get hurt sometimes when you trust people, but you can save yourself a whole lot of grief if you don't build people up to be something they aren't.

Easier said than done, I know... from experience. I think it's normal to feel emotionally numb while you process the last experience, but if you can really move on and understand that it was nobody's intention (usually--assuming your judgement is halfway reasonable) to hurt you anymore than it was your intention to hurt them, that they hurt you because they are who they are--you just accept they had those flaws and you move on with a little more knowledge about what you want in a relationship, and don't project the faults of former lovers onto the new people you meet... until you meet one you think you can trust. Then you take a chance again... hopefully you're smarter about who you trust now and also have a better idea what it takes to keep a relationship going (some of the problem could be you?).

You're gonna be OK.

Answer 3

I feel this way. I keep getting hurt and even when I try not to get too involved I end up getting hurt. I just get to the point where I think I can trust and then my world smashes apart.

But to find love you have to take the chances and get hurt sometimes. Perhaps we might be more careful with the choices we are making and pay better attention to the warning signs that the guy we like might be a loser/jerk/not worth it. Then end it right away.

I sometimes wish I was numb to the feelings because it wouldn't hurt but don't actually let yourself go numb because you will miss out on the real stuff when it comes around.

Answer 4

i felt like that for 6 months after my x and i broke up
but then i started to let people in
but sometimes till this day i get scare and run away when someone rushes me and get too close to soon

but yeah its natural but dont let past experience hunt u and stop u from being ur self and meeting people ok

Answer 5

honey don't you love the feeling of falling in love i've been hurt too but that feeling of liking someone or loving them is like a drug for me i also love being alone; i enjoy my time with my self so when i'm with some one i enjoy them. you should try being alone for a while maybe that way you'll try something different in your next relationship but NEVER TRY TO NUMB TO LOVE IT IS NOT WORTH IT

Answer 6

I sure do. I've surrounded myself with a sort of forcefield that blocks out any romantic thoughts of guys. (Sexual ones, however, are different. [smirk]) It's much easier than letting yourself get hurt again. You get the Rio Madeira Seal of Approval!

Answer 7

for the time being you will feel this way and be nume to love untill you meet someone who just get to you in a way you want them too. Give it time and faith will do the rest.

Answer 8

sure you can be numb to love i was like that for several months what you need to do is find the one guy that likes you for you .

Answer 9

yeah but we have to wait on the right one to stir those feelings.
I dont know where those good gouys are either.

Answer 10

Yeah, me too. Don't trust anyone easily.