How to get girlfriend to breakup?

Question

Ive had a relationship with my girlfriend for the last 4 months, and she is a good person, just we've had alot of fights in those 4 months, abotu everything, where i was going, why i was 20 minutes late to call her and everything, We are both 18 and about a month ago, I really realized that im not ready for a relationship like this, she talks about having kids and getting married and moving in with her, and im not even close to that, I try talking to her telling her i need time to think about it all and i dont know if i can have a girlfriend like this at this point and she gets mad. I know i cnat handle it and i know i cant deal with it, For the last month ive beent rying to break up with her and including 4 times in one day where she just wouldnt get it. She tells me that she cant let it go and that she wont and she will do everything she can to stay together, including waiting for me to finally realize I need her, and that she only wants kids with me and never going to have another

Obviously you failed to read, I have tried, over and over and she doesnt let it happen, she tells me to take time to think and says she wont get over me or wait for me to want to be with her again and things like that

Answer 1

Say the following- "You are pushing to hard on this relationship. I am to immature to want the things you want, I am sorry, you deserve better."

Do not call her back, do not answer her calls, and if she shows up on your door step explain to her that you have broken up with her. Do not argue, just state your position.

You will be complimenting her by informing her that the break up is not her fault (you are admitting that this is about you when you claim immaturity) and you will be telling her that you like her enough to think that she deserves better.

Its a win-win :-) she is free to find someone that wants what she wants and you are free to find what you want.

I mean no disrespect to you when I said you were immature, it took me ten years to marry one of my best friends, we had bought a house before getting hitched. It wasn't about marriage as much as it was about finding ourselves which I think is something that you might be trying to do. All in all you are making the right call, and in my mind shows that you are mature.

Best of luck.




My apologizes. My intent was to make clear the advice that you NOT upset her during the break up phase.

Something that was suggested to me about this was- if she doesn't take the hint that you want to break up inform her that you have a date this weekend and you would appricate it if she not bother you during it. If she asks why the two of you arn't going some where inform her that you have broken up with her and you think she is being a little psycho about it.

Best of luck

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Sounds to me like you have a fairly good head on your shoulder, knowing your not ready for all this . Sounds like she is to pushy. If you have to account for every minute of time away from her now, it will only get worse later or after marriage. Best thing to do is move, tell her it is over as you two seem to have different goals in life. She will probably do the next bf the same way, plus the old, she only wants kids by you and never have another bf thing, she is inmature. She talks a good game, but it is phony.

Answer 4

WOW... She seems scary. I know this is going to SOUND EASY and be really hard to do, but you just gotta end it. Tell her that she is on a completely different path than you are, and that even though you care alot for her, its TIME to go different ways. She is going to cry and scream and all you can do is LEAVE. Dont stick around for the fall out, it will just make things worse. Its only been 4 months. Next time when a girl starts acting like this from the get go, and you arent feeling it- Be upfront with her, and END IT RIGHT AWAY!

Answer 5

Dude, are you serious ? What do you mean she wont let it happen ? Did she chain you to her bed and wont let you leave ? You need to stop sugar coating things and just break up with her and walk away. Dont take her calls and dont talk about it anymore. Tell her its over and she shouldn't wait for you. If you dont talk to her she will get the point.

Answer 6

I think you should leave her a lone before it gets any worst. if you end up having any attachments to her you definitely will not get rid of her... I suggest you end it now. She sounds psycho. Right now go out and explore what the world has to offer you, don't just settle especially with a girl like that.
Hope this helps and good luck!!!

Answer 7

She sounds like she could be a stalker. You need to be very direct. Tell her that it is best for both of you to end the relationship. Tell her that you don't want to have to file a restraining order against her but you will if you have to. Then follow through.

Answer 8

Stop being such a spineless weenie! Tell her that you don't want to see her anymore. Don't call her anymore and block her calls to you. CUT OFF ANY AND ALL COMMUNICATION. Start going out with somone else...Jeez it isn't that difficult. How in the world does she "not let it happen"? You've got a psycho ***** here and it may be difficult to separate....

Answer 9

Shes phsyco,,tell her straight up,,I am not ready for such a serious relationship.Within 4 months she tells you how its going to be with marriage,,children etc.You are too young for all that.Some girls are in such a hurry & then they wonder why it doesnt work out after they have children etc.Tell her today & get free.

Answer 10

Obviously she's not getting the message so just stop communicating with her and she just might figure it out. Tell her that it is over and that's all there is to it. You can't make someone love you and she needs to learn that.