I would like both a female/male opinion please?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years. I know him pretty well, or so i thought, im not so sure now. We were like best friends we've been through so much and we just grew stronger. the other night he gets a message that says "i loved the perfume" he said its from his sister, why would his sister send him such a message? i am not a jealous person and im not insecure but this message doesnt make sense to me. we had a huge fight over it. i cant bring myself to believe him but then on the other hand he never has any suspicious phone calls and ive never seen any weird things on his phone except for that message. he has always been open with me.whats going on? is he lying?i dont want to be naive.from a female perspective: what would you think if this happened to you? am i wrong to be suspicious? from a male perspective:what do you think of this situation? Thank you for your answers, they will be appreciated.

Answer 1

If it was his sister, he shouldn't have any problem proving it to you that it was her and not some other girl. Now, that's my opinion.
I've been accused of crap before and innocent. And I make it pretty simple and clear that I'm not hiding anything and willing to prove it if possible. That seems to me something he could prove pretty easily.

Answer 2

I wouldn't think it was from his sister. I have two brothers and I wouldn't send them a message such as this. I would have told them in person. (I rarely text my brothers) But the message is innocent so far.

I would have asked what type of perfume it was because I may want to try it if it was really nice. At a later date when around the sister I would have asked if she liked the perfume called (the one he bought). That may be taking things far but I have been burned before.

For now there is nothing to do but believe him. Suspicious feelings in a person who isn't normally suspicious are usually a sign.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I would probably just CALL my brother to say something like that. Also, PLEASE don't use the advice that says ask her what kind of perfume it is because you want to use it for him. In the case that he IS telling the truth it would be GROSS for him to like make out or whatever yall do, all the while SMELLING his sister!!!! I would just keep an eye on him. I had a relationship with my male best friend before. The only time he started lying was when there was someone else. He never lied to me about anything before then. So, just keep an eye out. Don't put too much on the perfume incident though. Hope this helps!

Answer 4

Talk to his sister. Get the number out of his phone and send them a text back. Say something that only his sister would know, and then if they send you a message like "who is this" or whatever, dig a little deeper. Two years doesn't mean anything. I was with a guy for 5 and i thought i knew him well. He was cheating. I had no clue and it was with the person i least expected. I would not fight with him over it. Just do a little digging, and then when things dont turn up like you thought they would, you can confront him and get mad. Don't get mad just yet though, he will think you don't trust him and there may indeed be no reason to get mad. You just have to investigate.

Answer 5

You have ever reason to suspect any girl would be a little suspicous especially if you say this is the first time something like this happens. I think you should not jump to any conclusions or keep brining it up because this will cause you more problems, if this was me i would first investigate a little ask the sister that would be the first step.....maybe even look at the message again and look at the number and what the heck call the number make sure it is the "SISTER" !! You should trust him but then again he should understand where your coming from and that you want to make sure that he is not playing any games. GOOD LUCK.....;)

Answer 6

Here's the answer from a psycho girlfriend lol (myself): Get the phone, get the number, call the number back and ask who it is!! If it IS his sister then say, oh I was just wondering where your brother is.
Or you could just straight up ask the sister what he got her for Christmas, but do it in a round about way.
Find out on your own just to put your mind at ease.
Although if you ask me- I think the message probably was from his sister, especially since you haven't noticed any other suspicious activity.

Answer 7

Did anyone bother asking his sister if she got some perfume she loved from her brother recently. If the answer is yes then that person could then follow up with another question such as 'Did you send him a text message saying you loved the perfume'?

Answer 8

First, call his sister, and ask what type of perfume she got. and if she said it wasn't her, then.. lay the smack down. Maybe you never found anything suspicious because he has been careful, and always deleting messages and what not from his phone. If my man got a message like that, I would be kinda suspicious. But don't take it to far out of propotion, because what if he is telling the truth. then you lost trust with him, by makin a bigger deal then it really is. So just ask his sister, and don't make a big deal. but if he is liein and it wasn't his sister, Kick the jerk to the curb and find a new and approved man

Answer 9

If you know his sisters number call and ask her or get his phone and reply it asking who is this also the reason she probally sent him a message is because he was probally on the phone when she did try to call and tell him or his phone was off and she sent him a text knowing when the phone gets cut on he'd get the message, but not to be rude if you can't trust him why be with him, with out trust there's no relationship but a fighting one, now ask yourself this has he ever done anything to make you not trust him if not then go tell him sorry before it ruins the relationship any more.

Answer 10

Trust him until you have a reason not to trust him. It very well could have been his sister. Just ask her if you can. If he gets more strange txt messages then you will know for sure. But for now, believe him... because it is possible that his sister just wanted to txt instead of call. Don't worry. Good luck. And if you do find out that he was cheating on you, then you didn't need him anyway.

Answer 11

You Say you know him pretty well so you should trust him, but a message like that is sure to arouse suspicion.
So maybe he is lying, you don't know that for sure find a way that you can ease your mind or just trust him enough to believe that his sister really sent it.
Life has risks and you will need to learn to take some. Some times you'll get hurt and sometimes you'll be extra happy.