He does not know that I have his password to his email account, but I'm sure now he does because I confronted him about the pictures. While I was sleeping last night, he was on AIM chatting with her and she send him the naked pics. He even complimented her cause according to him, he did not know what else to say since he was "shock." He has cried on the phone telling me he is sorry, and he changed his screen name for AIM. He wants me to trust and believe him and stay with him. What should I do?
2007-01-04 03:06:13 · 33 answers · asked by Hmmmm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Either he's crying because he got caught or he's crying because he is really innocent and she is being a vindictive *****. You are going to have to do some soul searching to determine which. You also need to ask yourself if you will ever be able to trust him again when he is up late at night on the computer. Maybe he did get caught and you catching him is all he needed to realize that you are the one he wants to be with. Think long and hard..... Good luck!
2007-01-04 03:11:31 · answer #1 · answered by Christy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy and here is my honest answer. First of all, if I got naked pics of a girlfriend I would keep them forever. No man in his right mind would ever willingly give up naked pics of former girlfriends. When he is 60 years old (and can't get it up anymore) he can still look at them and say to himself wow, a woman actually did that for me. A woman who would do that for me is one I would never forget. It does seem obvious that he still has feelings for her. About the lack of anything during your birthday...would you really have been happy with a hand made card from him? I hear that a lot but in reality I don't know many women who would truly be happy to get something like that, maybe just maybe you are different. I don't think you are crazy for wanting to know where you stand, but what exactly do you want to know? Marriage? Does he love you? How much does he love you? He may not even know for sure. It just seems to me he is getting something from his former girlfriend that is is not getting from you and your job is to find out what that is. Sometimes that may not be enough, I don't know. BTW I would also like to throw my 2 cents and say I would like to receive those pics so I can judge for myself...
2016-05-23 02:38:19 · answer #2 · answered by Karen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a rest. So he was talking to her and she emailed him some pics what does that prove other than she sent him some pics? Let it go for now and keep an eye on him. Obviously he could go back to her if he wanted to but its obvious he doesn't want to. Let it go.
Don't put a data logger on his computer and stop reading his email. That is a total invasion of privacy and not cool. If it was me and you went in my email I would break up with you no matter what.
2007-01-04 03:11:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he ask her for the pic's?? or did she just send them? That makes a difference. If she is his ex, then she is going to know his email and screen name. She probably wants him back, so she is trying to entice him and break-up your relationship all in one shot. Now he has changed his screen name in order to hide from her, I would forgive him. But keep a close eye on him, just to be safe.
2007-01-04 03:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by baby_girl_8881 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really couldn't stop her from sending them....
And it sounds to me like he IS sorry, and that why he said what he said to her was b/c of the shock of receiving such email.
If he cried, changed his SN, and is asking you for another chance, I really don't see why you shouldn't give it to him.
Really, they are just naked pics.....would you be so offended if they were pics of someone he didn't know?
2007-01-04 03:13:57 · answer #5 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he changed his name just for you then he is truly sorry .I would forgive him and move on,forget the pictures if he wanted to be with her then you would not be around.As you said he was shock and didn't know what to say.Why don't you show him how much you love him and that you forgive him by having dinner,candle light and sexy lingerie.We really don't like to lose the ones we love.
2007-01-04 03:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by love me like me hate me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to get him back...or just being naughty. It would be respectful to you if he shut her down.
My advise to him would be to dump you. I have zero tolerance for cheating. But not respecting privacy and boundaries is nearing unforgivable too.
Snooping makes you look insecure, clingy and distrustful. Really unattractive quality's in a mate. You need to allow him privacy, be confidant that no one in their right mind would ever cheat on someone as cool a you. Cheaters want to be found out and will make it obvious, they love the thrill of betrayal. No need to snoop, if you find out dump him immediately and never look back.
Never date someone you don't trust.
2007-01-04 03:15:40 · answer #7 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say both of you need to work on trust issues...You checking out his email and he recieving the nake pics....Good Luck!
2007-01-04 03:11:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if the jerk can go behind your back, and still be aroused by his ex girlfreind, then is he really the type you want to have in your life? if he is doing it now, does it really mean he won't do it again?? Just because he changed his name, does not mean anything, it usually just means that he needs to be more careful and alert about what you know, and what you are capable of doing(getting his passwords). i would say leave him, and if he can go behind your back to mess with another women, then maybe he should be with her.
2007-01-04 03:10:47 · answer #9 · answered by tuffchevy86 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's ouvious that he still has some sort of relationship with her.and he changed his AIM name,,,, u can not trust this person anymore.it will be best for u to leave him.even if he tells u he is sorry and he want's u to stay with him. he's just trying to have u bouth. just for his pleasure. i don't think he cares about your feelings.dump him and don't regret it!!!
2007-01-04 03:21:29 · answer #10 · answered by blabla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋