Last night my neighbor's 18year old son lost control of his car and died instantly. They moved in 1 year ago and only once did I converse with the mother. My daughter went over about three times to play with their cat. What do I do to show my sympathy?
2007-01-04 03:02:03 · 12 answers · asked by childrenofthecorn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Go to the local flower shop and get a bouquet of flowers, carnations last the longest. Get a kind sympathy card also, and then take them over and place them on the doorstep. If you are brave enough, you can knock on the door and ask if you can bring them any meals or take care of their house if they need to travel for arrangments.
People need lots of support when they loose a loved one. My husbands father was killed tragically by a hit and run driver this past Labor Day, so I know that it meant a lot when people i didn't expect offered to help us with things.
Even if they don't accept any help, the offer will mean so much more than you know.
God Bless
2007-01-04 03:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by brookebjpl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter that you haven't known them long or well. You are neighbors and as such, you should go over with a casserole and tell them you are sorry for their loss. If they're fairly new in the community, they may not have close friends nearby and it would be comforting to have neighbors show their support.
2007-01-04 19:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing that you can do is to be available for them to talk about their pain. There are many phases of grief, and it takes a minimum of one year to go through all of the phrases.
There is an excellent support organization called 'Compassionate Friends'. They have chapters all over the United States, and their focus is when you lose a child.
Offer to drive your neighbor to a meeting, and just be there for him.
2007-01-04 11:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by D S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a friend. Take over your best cooked recipe of something. Remember to put your name and phone number on the bottom of the dish if you want it back. Ask if there is anything they need. Offer your driveway if they need additional parking for special family members who cannot walk long distances. Give them hugs lots of them.
2007-01-04 11:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by Miki M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When our neighbor's husband died, my stepstepmother got them food. A lot of people will call on them to pay condolences, and it's nice to be able to offer people something to eat. Just something in a dish that you don't mind losing if they are too preoccupied to think about it.
2007-01-04 11:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply let them know you feel for them the next time you see them, make some nice comments about their son and maybe tell them that he is in a better place now, although they may be hearing that alot.
2007-01-04 11:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by Eric H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's appropriate to send a card and flowers. Also, If you feel comfortable, you can send over a dish or baked goods.
2007-01-04 11:06:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some good comfort food wrapped in a smile.
2007-01-04 11:10:19 · answer #8 · answered by shaigrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well just tell them that their son was helping,nice and tell every gud thing bout him......and to show more sympathy just pour some tears and ask for his photograph....this is gr8...try this
2007-01-04 11:59:10 · answer #9 · answered by winner boy...lol 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can also go see her and offer condolences in person and let her know if she needs anything not to hesitate and let you know.
2007-01-04 11:10:04 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋