2007-01-04 03:00:27 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
(Evan Rhys I have not forgotten you...When suits? You removed your question!)
2007-01-04 03:15:10 · update #1
It is possible for him to stay monogamous, but in general I think the prospects are not in your favor if you need to impose a very strict, conventional monogamy. Even if, for moral reasons, he does successfully stay monogamous to you, I would be concerned that he might feel trapped by circumstances and ultimately not be as happy or fulfilled as he should be. If you love him, you will want to consider his erotic health, as well as your own. So I would suggest that if you love this guy and have not seriously considered some form of non-monogamy, or alternative monogamous sexual explorations, then you might want to do so.
There are endless possible variations on non-monogamy, or monogamous erotic exploration, so there might be some option that works for you. For example, you could agree to experiment with a third person for a few flings. Since this would be a shared experience, it might not raise the same sorts of jealousy or other concerns that might otherwise be a problem. Another idea is "soft swap" where you can play with others in limited ways (no intercourse, for example, or for some couples "no kissing" etc.).
And then there is "same-room sex". This is still monogamy, but it can introduce some sense of satisfying erotic adventure. (Basically, you two have sex, but there are other people naked or having sex nearby. A lot of orgies are really just a group of monogamous couples having sex in the same room – never really swapping partners (although the foreplay phase might involve some naked massages, petting, etc., with others in the room). My basic point is that even if you decide that you really must have monogamy, there are still variations of sorts of erotic adventures involving other people that are open to you.
My other point is that you need to be clear (to yourself and each other) on what counts as sex. Naked massage, light petting, heavy petting, mutual masturbation – these could all be open options, depending on where you draw the lines. And you might discover that all sorts of things are possible so long as you agree to what sorts of exploration you are willing to try. Bottom line: If you keep an open mind, there is a good chance that you can have a long-term/life-long committed, loving relationship without either of you having to give up your spirit of erotic adventure, and without taking high-risks of exposure to disease.
By the way, my wife and I are open to swinging, polyamory, and erotic adventures of many kinds, so I am speaking from personal experience. We also have a lot of friends in alt lifestyles, so I have a lot of second-hand information as well. If you want to email me to discuss ideas in more depth, feel free to do so.
2007-01-08 01:47:11 · answer #1 · answered by eroticohio 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I lost my virginity to my wife when I was 24 - and we're still together 12 years later - so if everything else is going well between you two then there is no reason why not.
2007-01-04 03:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by clockwatcher 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey you, missed ya!!! I don't know, that's a tough one for sure, you have to put yourself in his shoes too, if you had just been awoken to this amazing thing by someone as groovey as you, wouldnt you be a bit curious about experiencing it with others? Maybe not at first, but as your confidence grows..............but then again, once he's tasted that the grass is definatley not greener, then he will be back. Sorry to say though, I think the fact you asking this means you got a good grasp of the male nature....................I am happy to be wrong though.
2007-01-04 03:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No honey.
If he's 24 and only just lost it, then he's very likely to take that experience you've given him, and move on.
He might be a keeper, depends on the guy, but in my experience (more than I care to admit!) the ones you train up tend to love you and leave you, however sweet they may be...
2007-01-04 03:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by SilverSongster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it somewhat is going to harm somewhat, hun, so take it sloooooow. Oh, and confirm you have no longer have been given a yeast an infection; in case you do you're in for a helluva lot of discomfort during penetration. different than that, it somewhat is going to experience fantastic! good success and function relaxing!
2016-11-26 02:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by kirk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on you. If sex is something you withhold as a punishment or to play games, he will find it somewhere else.
Keep your man happy and satisfied, and he will never leave you.
...Or at least I would never leave a girl who kept me satisfied.
2007-01-04 03:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only detail about your arrangement with this guy is that he lost his virginity to you. if that is all that ties the two of you together, then no. if there are deeper connections, yes.
2007-01-04 03:42:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say it depends on the guy and how much he loves you,if he really cares about you then yes, and if you get married to him i'm sure he wouldnt wonder off
2007-01-04 03:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by mybabylove87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key word here is 'guy' - of course he's not going to be monogamous!
2007-01-04 03:04:22 · answer #9 · answered by Misha-non-penguin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he loves you then yes he will be faithful to you, if you dont love him or he doesnt love you then he will leave. ask each other how you feel about one another. if either feels no love then break the relationship off.
2007-01-04 03:08:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋