~i messed up by not trusting him that his brother was in the hospital
~i used my friends cell phone and played a mean trick on him and he said we were through and that he would never talk to me again
~He comes home from iraq next month
~Says he loves and that he wants a baby with me, marry me, and live with me
~why would he just take me back after i messed up
2007-01-04 02:56:58 · 15 answers · asked by Janie L 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
It's called forgiveness. If he's been in Iraq, he's seen and done a lot of things far more serious than what you did. It puts it in perspective, although you do sound a little mean spirited and immature.
2007-01-04 02:59:50 · answer #1 · answered by Catspaw 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he was getting ready to get deployed he had other things on his mind and you were playing games? Geez...... but that was then and this is now.
First of all he experienced a different culture even if he didn't see combat. Sounds as you guys are young so this will have been a life changing experience for him. Being away from home makes one realize how trivial most things are in life compared to what the Iraqis go through.
Now he is coming home and is probably thinking about what is important. But, this might not last once he's been back for awhile. Give him a chance but be careful.The order should be Marry, live together, then babies if he is truly serious.
2007-01-04 03:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he deployed to iraq. depending on his job he might have realized the fact that he might not come home. also deployments are extremely rough on both parties and he might have wanted to spare you that pain. but being male he might not have realized how much you really care and were going to hurt anyway. i suggest keeping busy. set a goal of no contact time. (2 days, a week, 2 weeks, a month, 2 months, ect) don't look at his facebook or myspace. don't check to see if he's on an IM service. just leave him alone and focus on your self. it many seem selfish but this is a chance for you to get to know your self better so that if he does come back to fill those promises you'll be a person that he will be highly honored to marry. so get busy, fill your calendar. if you are in school go out and meet new people, take a class at the rec center, start working out, volunteer, do anything that keeps you from thinking about him all the time. soon you'll start to realize you can live with out him, but you have to keep at it. i was with my ex for almost 2 years and i still think about him everyday, granted he isn't a deployed soldier, but he did break my heart. it hurts for a while, but trust me it does get better. good luck honey.
2016-05-23 02:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by Karen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really a question for him to answer, not strangers on the internet. The fact that you're posing this question at all is rather bizarre. You should be questioning your own motives for even asking this question. If he's a good person, you still love him, and you aren't trying to get with some other guy already, what difference does it make as far as the reason(s) he's decided to forgive you? Just some food for thought.
2007-01-04 03:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being as someone who just got back from Afghanistan and have also been to Iraq, I have a good answer for you. When you are in the middle of nowhere you have a lot going on in your mind; Time to think about things. If he says he wants you back, then you should be thankful for it.
2007-01-04 03:06:59 · answer #5 · answered by phillipmarchal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever think that maybe he realized that he just cant breath with out you? That is soo sweat!! You two sound like a really good pair! And don't keep just looking at what you did wrong and look at the bright side, I mean your only human. Well hope everything works out for you. ttyl
2007-01-04 03:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by ~sweatypie~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe during the deployment he realized that he loves you too much to let you go.
Please start trusting him and not doing junk like you've done. I know it's very hard to trust if you've had untrustworthy people in your life - but he told you the truth even though you didn't believe right?
2007-01-04 04:08:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lady the man have bigger problem in Iraq like staying a live than to worry about a cheater he life behind at home .
2007-01-04 03:12:01 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is coming home after being away and wants to come home to "somebody". Give it a couple of months after he returns and you will see if it was you or just "somebody" he wanted.
2007-01-04 07:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by e.sillery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were I he ...I wouldn't even bother.
You sound like little girl.
Coming back from Iraq he would be better off with mature person.
2007-01-04 03:09:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋