Girlfriend is going to a party, she goes on about how shes going to hook her mate up with all of these boys that are going to be there, she says that her best mate is a bit of a 'slapper'.
By her saying this it has kind of made me worry about what she might do at the party, them being best mates and all, we are pretty close, and i do trust her, obviously not 100% otherwise i wouldnt be worrying.
She asked me wot was wrong, in a nice way i was truthful, she says..
'Ok i wont go'
i keep telling her to go as i do not want to deprive her from her friends, how can i make her see i dont want my own way, just re-assurance.
Does anyone know of anything that would take my mind off of the matter while she is at the party?
2007-01-04 02:45:39 · 17 answers · asked by Hb 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The party is invite only :(, and she does basicly have me wrapped around her fingre :\
2007-01-04 02:53:43 · update #1
That was very nice of her to tel you that she will not go.
If you want reassurance just ask her for it, you were brave enough to confide in her your small insecurities, but remember, just because she gives the reassurances does not mean that she will not do what she wants.
I have a saying, ask me no questions I will tell you no lies.
Not to say she will do anything.... Trust her until you have proof in your hands that she is not trust worthy.
You have to think of it this way.
Even if she is cheating and you will never find out, is that still OK for you? does she still treat you well?
We guys cannot constantly go around wondering if they are doing something behind our backs.
I personally have never had a gf that did not cheat on me.
as for what you can do to help take your mind off of it...
Go bowling with the guys.
Go to a movie with your best chum.
Go to a club and chat up the girls. Talking is not cheating. Getting phone numbers is.
Go to the Drag Strip...
DO anything and have fun in the moment.
2007-01-04 02:55:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go out or reply to Yahoo Questions to kill time.. Are you worried she is going to hook up with someone else at the party? If she's going to cheat on you, she will do it anywhere, not just a party.. If you trust her, then you should have nothing to worry about..
2007-01-04 03:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by charlie2900 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can just tell her that all you need is reassurance. because she can not go to the party but your still gonna be worrying next time when she goes to another party or any other place that your not be in. and i imagine you dont wanna get to the point of following her around all the time, cus that could hurt the relationship. so talk to her, communication is the best way. and just tell her that you need reassurance. hope she understands. good luck :)
2007-01-04 02:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by ursNonlyUrs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you go to the party with them?
That way you're not spoiling her fun and you don't have to worry about her hooking up.
Oh and you might want to explain the term 'slapper' for those of us in the US.
2007-01-04 02:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by aiguyaiguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it worries you so much then you should go to the party with her...and if you go then you will know what she does at the party and hey...y'all could get out and have a good time with each other...but if you don't then you will be sittin' there on your couch trying not to think about what is happening and in the longrun you will still be thinking about it...so just get ready and go with her...and if she does not want you to then she is not much of a girlfriend.
2007-01-04 02:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by kristine_star2008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are worried and having trust issues, nothing anyone can say will make you feel better.
All I can say is that self-confidence is attractive, and you will be alot more secure in reality if you appear self-confident to your girlfriend.
There is a difference between being paranoid because someone has given you a reason not to trust them, and just not having any faith in yourself. Have a little faith in you and in your girlfriend.
2007-01-04 02:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by Linea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to party where she go, check her act in party.
Not let her know you were there at party. OK
See what's going on and tell her if there is something bad happend.
2007-01-04 02:49:58 · answer #7 · answered by foxxmay2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you want her to go, when she goes don't worry about it, if she does anything you'll find you but just trust that she won't she cares about you she won't hurt you..if not..well women are like buses if you miss one, another will be around in 15 minutes.
2007-01-04 02:48:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should offer to go with her.... and if she's bothered by it, find something to do that night... maybe a night out with the guys or just time to catch up on that TV series you've been wanting to watch for a while...
2007-01-04 02:48:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jessi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask her if you can just do with her?
I mean, I don't blame you at all. I wouldn't want my fiance to be partying like that...
2007-01-04 02:49:01 · answer #10 · answered by Marie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋