been seeing this man since oct things going great since christmas things are begingin to be wierd i have not seen him since the friday before christmass.and he has no time for me he takes care of his mom and the house but new years i asked what we doing he said he was talking his mom out o.k i have not heard from him since yesterday he said he was sick and this throat hurting he blew me off the phone. asked if i can come over there is always something i drove past his house twice and 2 different time ther was a car parked in my spot i asked him and he said it was the neigbors so i asked his mom if there was any other girls coming around she told me to ask him so i did he said think what u want, u always think that way anyway, no he said iam always thinking that because i never see him and the excues's and he ingnore my call he sys i call to much cuz he never calls me to let me know whats going on.iam like left in the dark, so i have backed off to see what happen's we lack comuncation
2007-01-04 02:40:27 · 15 answers · asked by Lisa S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-01-04 02:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sucks but you have to just let it go and leave him alone. If he comes around and you still want to be with him, fine....but where there's a will there's a way....and if he wanted to see you then he'd find a way to spend time with you or call you no matter what else was going on in his life.
Don't ask his mom about other women either, it makes you appear stalker-esque and potentially desperate. Nine times out of ten, if you ignore a guy you like and keep living and having fun as if you never met him and don't care that he's not calling you, the guy comes back around like a little puppy dog. Acting clingy and desperate drives them away.
2007-01-04 02:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by Rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him in a week, "We need to talk. You've been blowing me off, and I need to know what to expect."
When you call, be sure that you're ready to hear what he has to say. You're asking for honesty, so be grateful when he's being up-front with you.
I suspect that...
a) He isn't interested any more. You two need to break up. You'd be cheating yourself if you tried to make him stay with you.
b) He's been buzy with the holidays and Mom. The holidays can be a little crazy. Sounds like he may be trying to juggle being a good son and being a good boyfriend. Sadly, family trumps friends, so you're left on the sidelines. Let him have some space, maybe offer to help with "son" duties caring for Mom...
2007-01-04 02:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by Yoda's Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication is the most important key in a relationship. the fact that the two of you lack communication shows that there are some cracks in your relationship that you need to work on. he sounds as if he's distancing himself from you. perhaps he has some problems that he is hesitant to talk to you abt because he is unsure of your reaction to it. ensure him that you trust him completely and that it would mean a lot to you if you both communicated effectively. if he really is serious about you, he would respect your expectations of your relationship. just be supportive towards him and i'm sure he'll do the same for you. if he still keeps you at a distance and does not want to hear you out, you might want to talk to him about your relationship and if it means as much to him as it means to you. gd luck :)
2007-01-04 03:09:23 · answer #4 · answered by smilesaplenty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on with your life.
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2007-01-04 10:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by Philosopher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a man does not want to communicate that means, he is not into to you. My advice to you is not to bother calling him again! Find someone that cares he sounds like he is very lazy in this relationship and as for his mother leave her alone the poor women is in the middle you and he are not her problem.
2007-01-04 02:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mom's let you know with out blowing him up.......how you ask? When she didnt answer the question and told you to ask him.She dont what to get in between her son or your self ,but short the mom put you on.
2007-01-04 02:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by JAY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, ask yourself is the relationship worth saving? If no, then move on. No sense in all this trouble if he isn't even the one. Make it simple, not difficult. He is.
2007-01-04 02:55:05 · answer #8 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is clearly moving on. Whether there are other women or not, he is no longer interested. TAKE THE HINT! Move on to someone else.
2007-01-04 02:43:22 · answer #9 · answered by The Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have some self respect if he's ignore you why are you calling him, move on and even if he call you don;t answer it sound like he's has someone else and trying to broke up with you
2007-01-04 02:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty, communication, attention, caring, it's all missing from your relationship with him, so why try to keep it going?
Sorry to tell you this, but it's time to move on.
2007-01-04 02:49:07 · answer #11 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋