So what should I do, I have been wtih this girl for the last 4 months, and for the last month, ive been trying to break up with her. Including telling her 4 times in one day that i couldtn be with her, And i just dont think she gets it that thats what i Really REALLY want, and need. I think for 4 Months, she might just be a ltitle to attatched, and having her talking about getting married and having a kid, quite honestly scared me a little, even though i have already told her this, But the quesiton is, How do i get her to finally accept it! she tells me over and over that she is not going to give up and that she cant give up, Please help!
2007-01-04 02:32:43 · 15 answers · asked by Salad Tosser V3.0 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to be blunt, and don't continue to use her for whatever she is willing to offer. If you see her at all, she will always be hopeful or think things can be different.
2007-01-04 02:38:38 · answer #1 · answered by Linea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you told her that you love her...that was a mistake.
Never tell anybody that unless you are sure that they are the person you want to be with.
If she is not getting the hint just tell her that it is not working out, you're sorry. Maybe, hopefully then she will get it. There is really no easy way to break up with someone without hurting them(especially if you've had sex).
You just need to firm with her about how you feel and why you feel that way...I'm sure she's gonna cry, I mean she wants kids!
But you have to look at it like this are you happy with her or not. Don't just break up with her because you got scared though....
Good Luck
2007-01-04 10:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i am only 16 but maybe you should sit her down and explain that your just not ready for the same commitments that she is and try and make her understand that your not trying to hurt you but your just not ready for a kid or marrige yet. Wow 4 months is deff. a little soon to be talking about getting married because you guys dont know eachother that well in 4 months ⥠Even if you try and brak off all contact with her then she will start to accept it who says that after you guys both move on that later on in lfe you guys could maybe friends
2007-01-04 10:37:41 · answer #3 · answered by *[Hanna]* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frist it depend on her age, with her understanding that you don't want her any more. If you had sex with her then she very well may be attacted to you and that is something she have to come to terms with and try and get over it some get needy so which ever one she may be your going to have to take it slow if you don't want her but care about how she feels then take your time and let her know firmly but not harsh that it's over eventually she will get the picture it sounds like you need to take it slow and easy with her. But think about what kind of relationship you guys had and so from there in the furure note that females fall quicker than males so be careful with what you say and so depending on wheree your at in the relationship. Have athat understanding up front.
2007-01-04 10:40:45 · answer #4 · answered by miss out spoken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should have never licked her butt!!!! salad tosser.
Introduce her to a friend you don't like and no longer want to hang around with...lol.
Ignore her, don't accept her calls, if she comes over don't answer the door. Avoid her at all cost...if that fails see about getting a restraining order for stalking.
2007-01-04 10:38:11 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes girls fell like that if they give something to you the desirve a life with you just sit her down and tell her that you have had the best time with her beut everything is moving to fast and you need time away from her to get your head back together tell her that you are not saying that your not going to get back together but you don't know if you will. that way she is not totally crushed and she can know that you don't mean to hurt her. coming from a girl this line i have used and it got used on me trust me its the best way to go. yes there may be tears but fight though them you deserve whats best for you!!!
2007-01-04 10:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by love strong with no regrets! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're very lucky to have a girl like this. Many men would "wish" to have a girl that would stand by them in thick and thin and would not give up.... In your case, I guess you did not explain why you really really want to break up with her?...
2007-01-04 10:36:41 · answer #7 · answered by NileQueen06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like the girl has an obsession with you and lives in fantasy land..
You could be in for a lot of trouble if she is mentally unstable.
Disappear is my advice.
2007-01-04 10:41:37 · answer #8 · answered by Aussies-Online 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop taking her phone calls, stop seeing her, just stop. That is the only message she is going to get loud and clear.
2007-01-04 10:35:13 · answer #9 · answered by me__ME__me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that it's over. Then don't call or answer her calls anymore.
2007-01-04 10:35:06 · answer #10 · answered by hotgramma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋