We broke up - If I am pregnant?

Question

What should I do?
We were living toghther. he dated a girl while we were broke up. We have d dated off and on for 6 years. I seen where she is calling him and I kicked him out.
Should I jsut raise this kid by myself?

Answer 1

Well, I'll tell you this. The last thing you should do is try to get back with him just because you are going to have a child. If the relationship ended badly, its only going to get worse, and you don't want to raise a child in an environment where the parents don't get along. If you are in fact pregnant, the two of you need to sit down and discuss how to handle the situation. If you decide to have the child, discuss parenting, visitation, child support, etc. Its a crazy situation. Good luck, I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 2

The way you worded your question is a little confusing.
Are you pregnant for sure, or are you not?
If you aren't sure of pregnancy, then I would recommend that you make sure one way or the other before you waste another minute worrying about that possibility.

However, if it turns out that you are pregnant, then he needs to be made aware of the situation. A child always has two parents no matter what, & you don't have the right to deny your child its father no matter how you may feel about him.
Also the father of your baby has responsibilities, & obligations to fullfill so hold him accountable.

Whether or not you are pregnant you would be well advised to practice safe sex until you are married, & ready to have a child, in a secure & nurturing environment.
That way you won't have to face the possibility of raising anymore kids by yourself.

Answer 3

No, let things calm down for a couple of days then the two of you need to sit and talk. Just because the girl has been calling him doesn't necessarily mean he has been cheating on you so before you jump to conclusions, open the doors of communication so that you can talk about it. If you are not able to come to an agreement, make sure you have his SS# so he can pay child support. If you work things out and things get better, let him know that he needs to get his phone number changed, but still keep the SS# just in case. Keep that precious baby.Good luck and God bless.

Answer 4

what do you mean should you raise the kid yourself , hello you made the choice to put the father out so it means yes you will. (but make sure you get child support). if he is on again off again type guy with relationships in between your own relationship with him then yes you did the right thing . you don't want to raise a child confused and around a lot of nonsense. good move and lol

Answer 5

I kiked my ex out when our daughter was 5 months old. She is 2 1/2 now. I have never told him he could not come to see her, but his lack of interest in being her life and lack of child support has pushed me to the point on wanting to ask for limited visits - We have tried twice to set up visits for them to get to know each other and both times he has decided it took too much time from his routine. In the interest of the child however, if the other parent is willing to be a part of the childs life - you have no right to take that from the child - but, if the parent does not want to me a part of the childs life - then it is your responsibility to protect the child fromt he roller coaster ride.... my ex comes around only when it suits him - which is what I am trying to put a stop too.... I do not want my daughter to be expecting him for a visit and then him not show - she deserves better than that -

Let him know and see how he handles it - but explain to him that you are not telling him to trap him - but to see if he wants to be a prt of thte childs life from the being - and the fact that as the sperm donor he has a right toknow and make the decision from the start on how active he wants to be with this child.

Answer 6

Well for him to be a part of teh childs life you better take a paternity test make sure it's his, because knowing him he will say it's not him and that you have been sleeping with everybody. SO once you know it's his, have him give you child support payments to you, and if you want to raise the baby alone hey go for it. But if he's a man he will offer to help because he will know it's his baby. So get a test first showing it's his, yea I know he's the only one you have been with but you need to make sure so he can't back down. AND if you need to chat just IM me anytime.

Answer 7

What do you think? Would you say he would be a responsible father or care for your child? What would he do if he found out you were pregnant? If you kicked him out why would you want him back in your life? Your responsibility is to your child. In this case you would be better off caring for your child yourself at least until you find some guy who will love you and the child.

Answer 8

We broke up. What should I do if I am pregnant? We were living together. We have dated on and off for 6 years. He dated a girl when we not together. I saw it when she called him, and I kicked him out. Should I just raise my child on my own?

That wasn't too hard to write. It took less than three minutes.
Have you finished high school? I think if you raise this child by yourself, you should consider making sure you and your child get a good education.

Answer 9

Need more details here. He dated her while the two of you were not together, so I don't see a problem there. Also, you said that she is calling him. Has he returned the phone calls? Is he back seeing her on the side?

If he is still seeing her, then yes you need to raise your child yourself (but with support from him if he provides it).

Answer 10

Definately not.

No matter the problems between you and him and despite the emotional pain you might experience, the child needs a father. If you aren't ready for a serious relationship with someone new, keep ties open with the father... And if worst comes to worst, you can always sue for child support.