I haven't spoken to my father in over a year, should I still ask him to walk me down the aisle?

Question

We had a very bad argument, about a year ago I see him on occasion but he won't speak to me. It hurts me because I love him very much, and I would like to have him at my wedding.

Answer 1

Wow...it boggles my mind to think what a hard-head your father must be! Mature people who really love and care for each other don't play emotional-manipulation games, like your father is doing with his silent treatment. It sounds like you're going to have to be the mature one here and break the ice with an apology. However, be careful that you don't end up being the one to "keep the peace" for the rest of your life by always being the one who begs for forgiveness after every disagreement. It takes two to have a relationship, and any relationship where one person does all the giving and the other person does all the taking is not healthy, and it will never be truly satisfying. Real love heals all. Good luck!

Answer 2

I struggle with this too. My father wasn't the best dad growing up and I didn't speak to him for several years. I am tyring to be a bigger person and slowly establish a relatiohsip with him, but I only speak to him about 3 or 4 times a year.

For some reason I would feel bad not having him walk me down the aisle, even though I am not his biggest fan. My solution is to have both my mom and dad walk me down. Try that.

Answer 3

I would ask him. He is your father and even if you are fighting, he still loves you and you would regret never asking him. I would have done anything to have my father walk me down the aisle, but he passed away a year before, so I walked alone. He may say no, but I would at least give him that opportunity. Then he has only himself to blame. Then again, he may say yes and you can resolve this argument. Good luck! And congrats on getting married!

Answer 4

Yes...ask him. My father passed away when I was really young and I would have given anything in this world to have had him at my wedding. All the answers are good so listen to them. Like the one said...you only get one father and one mother. So try to break the ice and tell him you want a fresh start and forget about the past. Congratulations on your wedding, and hopefully your dad will be there.

Answer 5

you need to go up to him and let him know how you feel. im sure your dad loves you and is dying to be part of the most important day of your life. If you don't have him walk you down the aisle both of you will regret this later. Make peace with him and have fun on your wedding day. Congratulations and good luck.

Answer 6

I think you need to tell him how much you miss him and that your life isn't the same without him. Perhaps discuss what you argued about and try to come to some kind of understanding and apologize if it's in order. Let him know it would mean the world to you to have him take part in your wedding. But do it soon so he has time to think on it if he's not open to it right away. Good luck.

Answer 7

This is obviously a relationship that needs to be mended.
If you let him know how important it is for you to have him walk down the aisle with you, it might go a long way toward mending fences.

I say, "GO FOR IT."

Good Luck!

Answer 8

I got married 9 years ago on dec. 26 my dad and I are great friends but he lives in cali and couldn't make it because of work,I got married anyways till this day that is the biggest mistake I think I have made so far in my life.Not having my father walk me down the aisle.I really hope you get the chance!

Answer 9

if you feel in your heart that you would like him to walk you down the aisle then definitely ask him .. a fight wont last forever but the memory of your wedding will =)

Answer 10

If you said you have had no relationship with you father all your life then that would be different... but 1 year? You definitely should talk to him and make it right. You will regret it if you don't. Good luck!