ok, so i am usually very nice to everyone, you know, and mostly try to make people feel comfortable around me, but sometimes when i am extra nice to guys, they mistake it for flirting and suspect that i like them... which i usually don't. so, how can i know the difference from being nice to flirting, so i wont give guys the wrong idea that i like them, also the uncomfortable " i think you really like me" talk.
can anyone help please?
2007-01-04 02:22:42 · 12 answers · asked by vallyazz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
btw, i dont try to flirt, i try to be nice because i like people to be nice to me.
2007-01-04 02:31:38 · update #1
oh, and i'm nice to everyone for that matter. my "friend" does it too, and that was probably the reason we are not friends anymore, coz she "stole" all the guys that i like, coz they used to think that she likes them, and now i really dont want to lose my new friends because of this thing.
2007-01-04 02:37:01 · update #2
i wish i could help .. i have the same problem .. i usually just let it go .. if you aren't constantly being flirty with the same guy every time you see each other then maybe he is smart enough to know what your true intentions are .. good luck
2007-01-04 02:25:51 · answer #1 · answered by love me only 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well definitely don't "dumb" yourself up when it comes to guys, or act all helpless and pitiful just so guys will do things for you. Treat both men and women the same way. I hate it when women do things just for male attention because it makes them feel good, and then whine later that all these men want them. There is a fine line between being nice and being too flirty and it's sometimes hard to know where that line is. I guess my advice is don't do anything that you would consider flirting if the tables were turned and it was being done to you.
2007-01-04 10:27:58 · answer #2 · answered by Rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is common for people that you are nice to to maybe think you feel more for them, that's what made the line "I only like you as a friend" come about. Don't go change how you are just to avoid this though. You are friendly and make people smile, so there is no need for you to change your personality. Every day in life there are both guys and girls who read too much into what a person says or does towards them. It's just something you have to get used to dealing with when you are a nice person.
2007-01-04 10:27:16 · answer #3 · answered by Rod Rod Go 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you being extra nice to guys? Why aren't you extra nice to everyone? This sounds like you are behaving this way just so that guys think you like them and you have the upper hand and can push them away. This may be unconscious behavior on your part. It doesn't make you a bad person, but you need to be more aware of your behavior around others, especially guys. Then you won't have to worry about having that "talk".
2007-01-04 10:27:12 · answer #4 · answered by Koko Loco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be nice to people without flirting. Just be friends with them as you would a girlfriend who is not close to you or friends with them as you would a brother of yours. Treat them with respect and laugh with them and don't show any affection toward them that could be misconstrued or misinterpreted. In other words stay away from the touchy feely thing. Don't look at them seductively either.
2007-01-04 10:27:14 · answer #5 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh this happens to me all the time - it even happened with my dentist . I now try not to make as much eye contact and keep my conversations short. It's helped a little bit, but I really feel like I'm not being myself when I act like that. I've struggled with this one a lot and I think it's their problem-just because your nice to them does not mean you want them.If you are just being who you are than just try to tone it down a bit .
2007-01-04 10:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have gone through this same thing myu whole life. I have always been a happy friendly person, since I got older it isn't taken that way as much but I have never been able to understand why when you laugh and talk to men do they get the wrong idea unless its just wishful thinking on their part?
2007-01-04 10:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being that "extra nice" to guys. That is where you should learn to draw a line between being nice and being taken as flirting.
2007-01-04 10:26:18 · answer #8 · answered by keyman_o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is very sweet that you are nice to everyone around you. If they misinterpret that as you liking them, then that is there problem. Please do not stop the flirting. The men around you just need to grow up and learn the difference.
2007-01-04 10:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by RayCATNG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this may be a problem for really attractive girls. Maybe you're not being overly friendly... the guy's just hope that you are because they are attracted to you.
2007-01-04 10:42:45 · answer #10 · answered by Darren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋