3 months ago I asked my fiancee for time apart. things were moving fast, marriage was coming, and I thought I needed to think alone. She was very upset, but I insisted and didnt see her for a month. I realized how much I loved and I asked her to take me back. At first she was still angry at me and she was dating someone else. She kept dating him, but I kept asking her back for about 1 week. She eventually forgave me and we are engagd again. Recently I found out that she had sex with the other guy the night before she took me back. She says she wanted to experience him, but that she wanted to teach me a lesson and test my love. She also wanted to thank the guy for being sweet. She told him she would go back to me, so that night she admits they did it almost all night, three times. We have talked a lot, about how she was hurt, and I have expressed its ok to tell how she enjoyed the sex. we are back in love and my heart knows that, but I cannot stop my head from being jealous. advice?
2007-01-04 02:13:01 · 11 answers · asked by downtokissit 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You have to listen to both.
I'm not sure I'd trust a woman who chose to do the things she did. If she was going back to you with the idea that you were to be her future husband, why would she give herself to someone else the night before she was to return to you?
If she wanted to "thank the guy for being sweet..." why not a box of chocolates? A nice sweater?
I wouldn't be able to to stop being jealous either. Maybe there are reasons you needed to be away from her; maybe you're not meant for each other after all. If that is true, I'm sure it is sad to realize, but in the long run, it would be better to run now than to stick with something that is doomed to fail.
All the best.
2007-01-04 02:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by Colin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
each so often you should hearken to good judgment first and your heart 2d. Your heart will attempt to trick you. She change into for sure not that damaged up about being separated from you if she slept with somebody else. the really reason she instructed you change into to make you jealous and he or she ought to not extremely care about your emotions. i'm assuming that you're both youthful thinking the outline of your challenge. If not, you adult men might want to nevertheless wait because neither of you're mature sufficient to handle marriage. It not often expenses something to get married.. a wedding ceremony license and the gas it takes to get to the courthouse! it truly is way harder and extra extreme priced to break up! do not do it if you're actually not particular. in case you do get married you should do not ignore that relationships take artwork and also you may't merely take a destroy even as ever issues get slightly demanding!
2016-12-01 19:46:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound to me that she is very smart for telling you about this sexual encounter. Some things are better left unsaid. That is just plain dumb. She must have did it purposely to make you jealous, which is not very nice to do to you. Especially to go into detail about the sex she had the night before...ewe, that's just mean and nasty. Honesty is the best policy is a load of crap when it comes to relationships.
If you are smart, you listen to your head.
It saves you YEARS of anguish down the road.
Your head is what is used throughout marriage, NOT your heart.
Your heart is what gets you into the mess, your head is what makes sure YOU are provided for, taken care of and are insured a happy and safe future, for your children as well.
2007-01-04 02:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by janesweetjane 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Head.
2007-01-04 02:17:33 · answer #4 · answered by Evil Atheist Conspirator 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she sounds very revengeful. she did that and told you all that to get back at you?!? whatever. if she really had loved you, she would have stayed at home for months crying and sobbing that you didn't want her. sounds like she doesn't love you as much as she thinks she does. listen to your head-apparently you're the smarter one.
2007-01-04 02:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jesus junkie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you....don't get married to her or anybody else in the near future.
Take yourself to a good therapist and get some of your issues resolved...you'll be so much happier.
2007-01-04 02:18:10 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is in the wrong section. You should look up "marital/dating advice" instead of Religion & Spirituality.
2007-01-04 02:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have already answered your own question. If you have doubts now it will only get worse later. Frankly, the whole thing is just stupid. Move on.
2007-01-04 02:18:38 · answer #8 · answered by Ivar 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your heart pumps blood.
Does this have anything to do with religion?
Oh wait - I read the rest of it - ditch the ***** - hurt her bad, first though. Cheat on her and make sure she finds out.
2007-01-04 02:15:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
This is not a R&S Q.
2007-01-04 03:12:56 · answer #10 · answered by jasmin2236 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋