i recently broke up with my b/f (we were only together for a month) i told him i still wanted to be friends n he said he didnt want to be my friend and it was be his g/f or not talk to me anymore....i told him he was S*h*i*t outa luck.... he told me AFTER i broke up with him that he was falling in love with me.... why do guys do that?!?
2007-01-04 01:57:59 · 9 answers · asked by lil_loca_0410 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my ex is 21
2007-01-04 02:05:32 · update #1
It's extremely hard for some people to take a step back in a relationship and just be friends with someone after they have been a romantic couple. Particularly if the person was dumped. It's a pride thing, especially for guys. Also, if he's in love with you, I imagine it would be very difficult for him to see you and relate to you now on just a platonic level. A more mature guy can handle this, but he sounds immature.
BTW - Are you serious about being friends with him? In other words, do you still plan to call him, talk to him, hang out with him, etc., as friends do? Don't say it unless you mean it. Also, don't "be his friend" just until you get a new boyfriend and then blow him off. Too many people use this line to "soften the blow" when they break up with someone, but they don't really mean it.
Also, you asked why some guys say they love you AFTER you break up with them. You were only together a month; maybe he didn't realize it until it was too late. Many people are together a LONG time (many months) before they get up the nerve to say "I love you" to the other person. Sometimes, it's also a last-ditch effort by the guy to keep you from breaking up with him. Would it have really mattered if he said it BEFORE you broke up with him? Would it have stopped you from breaking up with him? I would suspect the answer is "no," because if it mattered, you would have given him another chance.
If you truly want to remain as friends, be patient with him and give him some space and time to think. He's hurting now and lashing out. When he calms down and can think rationally, he may realize he would rather have you in his life as a friend than not at all.
2007-01-04 02:10:22 · answer #1 · answered by gab500 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well for a guy that really likes a girl hearing the words ( can we just be friends) is the worst words to hear, I have Xes and a few wanted to be friends but I do not play that game it's a womans way to leave the door open, each and every woman from my past have tried to call me or come back to me but , I can't allow that I have to look foward not live in the past , I ignore phone calls thank god for caller ID, Point is when a guy has true feelings for a girl and it doesnt work out just being your friend means hurting him more, cause everytime hes talking to you or remembering the past this causes more pain for him, so his only outlet is to completly let go and turn his back on you, I can completely relate to him, its the guys that stay friends and keep the doors open i feel sorry for cause that ruins their future happiness, I hope this explains kinda your question im exactly like your x BF I cant live in the past so if or when I hear the words can we stay friends, I say sure then never talk to them again and avoid them like the plauge. Why would someone give me a thumbs down for telling the truth? Mr. Bellows has it right exactly he's on the same page as me, I am a Man and I am simply telling exactly why A man wouldn't want to be a friend its all real
2007-01-04 02:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by albert 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Almost all guys are liars and we're all dogs. Guys will say almost anything to get the girl.
We'll also dump you just before your birthday and Christmas to get out of having to buy you a gift, then we'll try to get back together after the fact ... like nothing was wrong! We're shallow and immature for a much longer time that young women. We're focused on one thing ... for the most part ... and it isn't your great personality!
2007-01-04 02:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why is it when girls break up with their boyfriends they always throw us the bone of friendship???PLEASE sometimes we cannot take being friends with the girl we fell in love with.We always think of how much we want to be with them.You just do not get it.I bet if the shoe was on the other foot you may think differently.
2007-01-04 02:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Bellows 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont know why guys cant be friends after a breakup, i wonder why girls cant.
2007-01-04 02:03:54 · answer #5 · answered by packerswes4 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
because he is 13
2007-01-04 02:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
he just can,t take the part where you dumped him, he want,s 2 be the dumper
2007-01-04 02:02:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
they always want sex and if they can't have then they want nothing to do with you
2007-01-04 02:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
he wanted u for a lay, that's why.
2007-01-04 02:03:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋