My Girlfriends just dumped me, what can i do...?

Question

i just want her back for good, we've been going out for 15 months and shes perfect but says that she loves me and wants me, but she isnt sure if she loves me enough to be with me, i cant stop thinking about her, i just need her in my life, my heads battered, please help, thanks

Answer 1

She is playing mind games with you .... your best bet is to write her a lovely letter ..... putting down every nice thing she has done for you and what she means to you..... Oh and if you love her say it.....

Then send it and dont do anything ..... she will melt on reading it.... so no more texts, emails or phone calls until she breaks then she will be all yours.... Oh and you can play the whole you hurt me so much ...... and take the moral high ground..... Now she will want you back....

Good luck..... And never disclose this to anyone...

Answer 2

I agree with the comment about mind games actually to an extent. Some girls will do that, just to see if you'll chase them.

Is she still in her teens..?

I'd ignore her. Dont give her a rise to what shes saying. If she genuinely does love you, she'll realise what a mistake shes made, and see she cant treat you like this.
Otherwise, make time for yourself/go out with your friends/keep busy and eventually you'll see you can do better and find someone that does ''love you enough''.
From the sounds of it, as much as it'll hurt right now, you're better off.
You dont ''need'' her in your life. You were fine before her, and if you dont get back together you'll be fine in the future on your own/with someone else.

Answer 3

there is nothing much u can do right now ...if she says that she loves u but isnt that sure u should let things go for now and so she will have time to think about too

Answer 4

Let her fly, give her some space & time if she is yours she will return to you and she will be forever your's if not than dont get heart ache yourself. There are so many beautiful flowers around you, You just need to clean your tears from your eyes so you can see that flower who is blooming for you. Alex
Good Luck

Answer 5

you don't need her in your life,you just want her in your life cos it's what you've been used to for the last 15 months.you really need to talk to her and let her know how you feel,and try to find out if there's any chance of getting back together.if not,then just move on.your not the first person it's happened to,and you certainly won't be the last.you'll just have to live with it.

Answer 6

Don't chase her - just give her some space and let her realise how much she misses you, would be good if you can create a little (not too much) jealousy in her......

Become the fun guy you were before you got together....that will attract her back

Answer 7

Alex, not easy to deal with, lunacy and very little logic to be dealing with here, I have a gut feeling that she could be suffering from Ed Zacarys disease ...... I remember a rather difficult situation an old friend of mine's sister once had, poor girl. Apparently she had not even been on a date for around nine years let alone had sex or got laid, so she was talking to one of her girlfriends who told her of a promblem she had with her husband three years before. Apparently they had not been sleeping together as they once did so in some desperation the two of them had gone to a Chinese herbalist doctor, they had eight sessions with him and to this day they had never been to happy together. So, after asking her friend if she would go to any lengths to find change she offered her friend the telephone number. Three days later my friend's sister made the call and made an appointment to see the doctor, very nervous she atteneded at the time offered. She went in and was offered a chair and he began taking her history and asking what her concerns were and why she had come to see him, after telling the doctor of her worries and complaint he asked her if she would go to any lengths in order to find change to which she said she was desperate for change. He then asked her to disrobe to take everything off and to get on her hands and knees and to then crawl across the room, mortified she complied with his directions, once having crossed the room with him making tutting noises she looked over her shoulder to which he motioned her to make the return journey, crawling all the way back to him, all the way seeing him shake his head and continuing his tutting. She then asked him what was wrong, why was he shaking his head and tutting, to which he said that what she had was a serious case ..... one of the worse cases he had seen, she was in semi shock and asked him what he meant and was there any way to remedy what he thought she had. She then asked what it was he thought she had to which he said Ed Zacary's disease, one of the worst cases of Ed Zacary's disease he had ever seen, blown away she said what is Ed Zacary's disease, I've never ever even heard of it, so he explained, it is when your butt looks Ed Zacary like your face.

Answer 8

No, you just think you need her. Right now you are heart broken and lonely. You cannot make her love you and why would you want to be with someone who didn't really love you in return? You need to move on.

Answer 9

Onwards and Upwards sunshine!

Just move on leave her behind! I gaurantee theres tons better women out there for you. It gets easier everyday belive me. I've been there. Enjoy yourself with your friends and build your character! The day will come when your ex see's you and she will rue the day she let you go!

Good Luck

Answer 10

calm down.. yea been there.. sucks... step back and look at it from her position... what ever that may be... and just give her a bit of time... maturity should rule during this time... she is working things out..... what can you do?... allow her to make a good decision and live with the fact.