Does it sound strange if you are over 30 and still not married?

Answer 1

Not at all.

Your marital status is no one's business other than your own.

Marriage isn't all is't cracked up to be. So many "singles" I know crave being married simply because they believe it to be a cure for loneliness. Believe me, it isn't.

The worst way to be lonely is to be in a relationship and still be doing the "singles" thing - going to the theatre on your own, sleeping on your own, having meals on your own, not having your thoughts/ideas taken seriously by your partner.

Enjoy (no, relish) your single status. Remember, it's your business - no one else's.

Good luck with being strong.

Answer 2

Oh, honey, no, it isn't! It would sound strange if you married somebody just to be married rather than waiting until you met somebody who you actually loved and could envision spending the rest of your life with.

I'm 36 and not married, so I do understand the societal pressure to march off into the sunset two by two (and bear in mind that this pressure will vary based on a number of factors - where you live, whether friends and/or siblings are already married, etc.). But if you keep your eyes open, you'll see what happens to people who have made poor marital choices: they live together unhappily until they divorce (perhaps not long after they married), which is unpleasant and often puts innocent children in the middle of their problems.

Just look at Britney Spears. Who sounds stranger to you: a 30-year-old single woman, or a twice-divorced (pardon me, she had the 55-hour marriage annulled) 25-year-old with two kids?

EDIT: I should add that one of the main reasons I can afford to feel blasé about marriage is that I don't want children. If you do want kids (and that is what prompted the question, rather than frustration with the societal pressure to marry), I would recommend that you consider taking more active steps to find a suitable husband (dating sites, become more active at church, volunteer, whatever). I say this ONLY because there are potential health implications for you and your future children if you start your family beyond a certain age.

I do NOT mean that you should settle for just anybody your search turns up - only that you should make more of an effort to look (there IS a difference). If you want kids and still don't find anybody suitable, you should still wait. I think it would be far better to marry somebody suitable at 40 (or 42, or 45) and adopt children than it would to marry somebody unsuitable at 32 just to have biological children...and then wind up divorced anyway (see above).

Continue to be patient and smart, and good luck!

Answer 3

I wouldn't think so. Maybe the individual is more career oriented than interested in starting a family. A lot of people are waiting until their careers take off before getting hitched. What would be weird though, is if this individual has been in several relationships where marriage was proposed, yet never made it to the altar. There could be an underlying issue with committment. I can honestly say though, I know several people over 30 who are not married. And unfortunately, I also know several people over 30 who have been married at least 4 times.

Answer 4

I'm 27, Still single, and there's nothing on the horizon lovewise, I'm confident though that I will find the Girl for me somewhere, one day we will meet. On the other hand, my 23 year old friend is petrified because he's not married or met anyone, his dad is worried too, personally I don't see anything to be worried about, these things take time, and tend to happen naturally when you least expect it. I don't think it strange that someone under 30 is unmarried, I only know of 2 of my old schoolmates who are married, 6 of the others that I know aren't and they are the same age as me.

Answer 5

I personally think that it is most wise to wait. When I think back to when I was younger I always tell myself, "God I was such an idiot!" The longer you wait the more life experience you get and the better choices you make in finding a partner. If you have intentions of getting married make sure that men know that you aren't taken. This is often assumed once you get to a certain age I think. People are always surprised when I say that I don't have children, let alone that I am not married yet (but finally will be this summer).

Answer 6

I've always wondered who picked the age of 30 to declare unmarried women "over the hill".

I think back to the 70's (when my parents and friends parents all married) and they all got married young. The sad thing is only 1 couple are still together.

Today, the most important thing is to be strong, independant and happy. If getting married is going to happen, let it take it's course and marry when you are ready not when society dictates it should happen.

So don't worry about age - just work on being happy.

Answer 7

not at all. when i was 20, i always said that if i was 30 and not married, then i would never get married coz i was too old!! what an idiot i was! i am now 27 and havent found the right person, and in my books, the older u r ,then the wiser you are. that means you will work on a marriage more than if u got married at 20.

Answer 8

Now days individuals are waiting until they get finshied with college and get their careers off to a good start to get married. And most are in their 30's, and single and loving it. So don't worry if you are over 30 and still not married. If I had it to do over with with my previous marriage when I was in my twenties I would of made sure that I had college over with and was established before getting married. Now that I am 32 I will be finally tying that knot this coming fall. So good luck to you he is out there waiting for u.

Answer 9

Ask yourself a few questions:
1. Why would it sound strange?
2. Why ask a bunch of strangers?
3. Why do you care?
4. What do you wish to achieve by getting a response for this question? Most people will argue or be offended if the answers don't agree with their vision so why ask it?
You are asking if it is strange to be unmarried over 30 because someone somewhere has planted the idea of how people are "supposed" to behave and you bought it.
Take responsibility for your own life and do what you feel is the best course for you! Remember the only thing definite in life is death and no one lives your life but you.

Answer 10

No not at all, I know people in their 30's and 40's that are still not married. Its not that they haven't had offers they just haven't found the right person yet. So no its not strange

Answer 11

Not at all. People are getting married later and later. 30 is still a very young age. Nowadays when people get married at 25 or 25, we think, really so young? I know plenty of people who marry between 28-35. I would not worry. You are still normal.