I feel like I'm starting bad habits with my 18 month old...it seems like I'm always giving in to her little tantrums. I don't want to see her sad and crying...and I'm pretty sure she's taking advantage of me now. I don't want to spank or yell...that's not me...I just need to figure out how to be firm with her.
2007-01-04 01:13:13 · 11 answers · asked by KBK 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
King James Bible--the book of Proverbs in the Bible.
2007-01-04 01:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by puddintain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just recommended these books to someone else on here but, "123 Discipline" by Thomas Phelan and "Dare to Discipline" by James Dobson. I also read "The Strong Willed Child" by Dobson and it really helped me understand why I felt like it was a war every single day over stupid stuff...because it WAS a battle, a battle of wills! As a parent, you need to establish boundaries and giving in to the tantrums only reinforces what she thinks...that she's in charge! It can be exhausting, but taking charge now only helps years from now when she's 12, 13, 14 yrs. old. Just remember, there is a difference between "loving discipline" and being a dictator! It's a thin line and really hard to balance. Good luck!
2007-01-04 04:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by emrobs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't yell at my daughter, nor spank her either, but temper tantrums, meaning, she cries without good reason, need to be stopped. With my 18 month old daughter, if she has a temper tantrum, i get down to her level, tell her (calmly) that she's fine and that she can let me know when she's done. I then walk away and do something of my own (keeping her in my sight) She will get over it and start playing with something else. Temper tantrums aren't caused by sadness and typically, the tears aren't from pain but from getting so worked up. Don't give in to her, just let her cry it out. If you help her with every little thing, she'll never learn to do for herself. If she gets frustrated because she can't do something, encourage her to try again and after 2 or 3 failed attempts, go ahead and help her... but don't do it for her.
Good Luck
2007-01-04 01:19:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 18 months, distraction still might work. If not, put her in time-out and walk away. Here is a book I like:
Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn
Tantrums are issues you will have to deal with a lot until they grow out of it. It sounds like you're trying to do the best you can, so kudos. A lot of parents give in to yelling to spanking. You sound like a great Mom!
2007-01-04 01:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by avalonlee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The book 1-2-3 Magic is a great, simple discipline strategy. Works very well. Highly recommended.
2007-01-04 01:21:26 · answer #5 · answered by shanequinox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not comprehend that the e book is Christian yet I easily have Dr. Harvey Karp, The Happiest toddler on the Block. I easily have in easy terms heard stable issues approximately him and that i used his innovations whilst my son replaced right into a newborn-the 5 S's.
2016-10-19 11:06:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love anything by Dr. Sears. He is a well known pediatrician with easy to read advice. "The Discipline Book" would be my suggestion.
2007-01-04 01:29:47 · answer #7 · answered by Mishwho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The power of positive discipline for parents.
2007-01-04 01:46:06 · answer #8 · answered by JustAmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try ASk Supernanny by Jo Frost
2007-01-04 01:34:43 · answer #9 · answered by singleton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making the terrible twos terrific is an excellent book. common sense and explanatory
2007-01-04 01:52:04 · answer #10 · answered by marina3029 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋