me and my bf want a baby together but he is sayin that he wants us to wait and wats the rush, but i really want one. i had a miscarriage a while ago and ever since ive been craving to get pregnant. im not on any contraception and we are having unprotected sex but he pulls out b4 he comes inside me. wat can i do? do i just wait when getting pregnant is all i can think of?
2007-01-04 01:03:37 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your bf is right...what is the rush..you are too young...and how about getting married before you have a child....also, it usually is a good thing if both parents want to bring a child into the world...doesn't sound like he is ready...don't do it
2007-01-04 01:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just to want to get pregnant without any thought of what your boyfriend wants or the future tells me you are not over the miscarriage and you definitely are not emotionally ready for a baby.
Your boyfriend is correct. There is no hurry. Slow down and ask yourself the real reason why you want a baby whether it's because you feel lonely or you think that will keep your boyfriend next to you (it won't by the way - that's why there are so many single mothers).
2007-01-04 01:07:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely sounds like you are rushing, you need a solid relationship before you are ready to make such a commitment.
Cause when you bring a child into the world that child becomes the responsibility of both you and your boyfriend and it is another life you must think about.
Give your relationship time to grow, if he thinks it is too soon then it is too soon. You maybe ready and he may not be.
If you have a child before he is ready then your baby could end up without a father.
So let the relationship have time to grow he will tell you when he is ready.
Cause parenthood takes more than one person to make it work.
2007-01-04 01:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by Engel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop having sex. Good to therapy. If you had a miscarriage, you need to talk to someone. There is no replaceing what you lost. Then if they tell you your ready to have a baby, talk to your Dr. See what steps you need to do before you try again. Then if all that is right, and if the b/f wants to try....but as a doctor once told my ex, pull out isn't birth control, and if your b/f doesn't want a baby and is doing that, I might look for a new father.
2007-01-04 01:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on you age, maybe it is best to just wait. However, being with someone means thinking about and acting on their feelings just as much as yours. If he wishes to wait for a baby that is his choice. You can not force him to have a child when he does not want to.
Also, the feeling you feel to get pregnant is natural. We are animals. And just like all the other animals in this world it is our instinct to want to reproduce.
However, along with all this, the "pulling out" method, almost never works as you will most likely get pregnant eventualy. It only takes one sperm to conceive and even with pre-semen it can happen.
I hope everything can be worked out with you two.
2007-01-04 01:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by bitty_and_me@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to be a parent please wait until after you've been married for a year or two.
A children deserves the best start possible and being raised in a loving secure home is the way to go.
You certainly don't want to start out getting pregnant with the stuff that's going on in your relationship now.
2007-01-04 01:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great....another illegitimate child that us taxpayers are probably gonna have to support. I understand you want a baby and all but until you get some type of hint of support or long term commitment, you should not have a baby. Chances are he will leave you if he doesn't want a baby.
2007-01-04 01:07:19 · answer #7 · answered by spanky1492 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is right, wait a while. If you have had a miss carriage then it is probally the right thing to wait and not rush in to things. What's the rush!
2007-01-04 01:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by shelley l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe u all should wait and not rush into it, also try to talk about it and get medical advice and some counseling to see if you are ready.
2007-01-04 01:06:46 · answer #9 · answered by JM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive got a 3yo and now pregnant again. Ive also had m/c. How old are you? What is the rush?
2007-01-04 01:06:09 · answer #10 · answered by xo_mzbeck_ox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋