Age difference??

Question

im 14 and i like a guy who is 19, only 5 years..i think he might like me too...but to me he doesn't seem that old, should i give him a shot?

btw, i've known him 4 quite a while, so has my family...he goes to my church he realy cute and funny and sweet, but my mom basicly hates him...idk why...and me and his brother (17) are pretty close friends....

oh and another btw, in our religon it's against what we believe to have sex b4 marrige....

Answer 1

Nothing wrong with dating him, but be careful how far you let the relationship go. Depending upon the state you live in, there could be severe legal impacts for him if things get too physical.

Answer 2

At 14 you should really back off for alot of reasons one being the age difference, at 14 you are looking at the world one way and he is looking at the world another. He is on the brink of man hood he has sexual urges that at 14 you should not be able to comprehend. If you was to become involved with him and by chanch it turned into a sexual relationship by law that is rape, and he could face prison.If you however were to get pregnant and your parents didn't press charges on him, are you ready to give up this child for adoption or to become a mother?
If you think raising a child is easy think again, At 14 you should be dreaming about dates, makeup, cloths, music, and that all goes out the window if you have a baby at your age,you wont be thinking about a prom gown you will be thinking about baby gowns, you wont be thinking about driving that new car at 16 youll be buying a stroller.
If this guy is a good man, then he should not even be thinking about going there with you. IF this is meant to be then you two will cross paths again when you are older.
I know this because when I was 15 I had a crush on a guy that was 25, but he was to mature and worldly for me, so I stayed away from him and finished school and dated guys my own age and did all those teenage things I should have done.He married and had a daughter, when I was 20 we ran backinto each other, he was divorced and he asked me out and I accepted.
By then I was grown and he was ready to settle down That was 22 years ago we are married still and we have a wonderful daughter who is 14 years old, so sweety, take your time to grow up.

Answer 3

I would not give him a shot. You have your whole life in front of you. Hopefully you will date many men and will pick one best suited to you and your desires. At 14 you are not even sure of what those desires are. However, at 19, men know exactly what they want...they just want to have fun!!! You will more than likely turn off any of the other guys who are your age by dating this "older guy". Just find someone else, please...it would be for the best, both for you and your future. Trust me, I've been there!
P.S. Five years is HUGE at 14 and 19...if you were 25 and he 30 it would be different. You do realize that if he had sex with you it would be illegal...

Answer 4

Honeybunch, I remember being your age and can relate to how you feel, buy do you realize that this 19 yr. old could go to jail for involving himself with you? If you were 20 and he was 25, on big deal. But 14 n 19 is a HUGE difference. Anyone under 17 is too old at your age. Leave this poor guy alone. he'll only get in trouble. Big trouble!!

Answer 5

I think it would be better for you to stick to guys closer to your age. As you get older the 5 year age difference won't matter that much but right now, you are too young to be with a 19 yr old. You won't have enough in common. You are still a child and a 19 yr old is out of school and ready to start their lives on their own. I think it would be nothing but trouble for you to get involved with him right now. Enjoy being young....there's plenty of time for you to have boyfriends.

Answer 6

the 5 year age difference between 14 and 19 is not the same thing as 20 & 25. no matter what you think now there is an enormous difference in maturity & wisdom there. i'm 18 & look at 14 year olds now and remember how i used to think i was so mature & the same as people in their late teens. in fact, it's kinda disturbing that he looks at you & doesn't feel the same way...and instead feels like sexually attracted. omg.

Answer 7

As long as you realise that he is probably interested in different things than you and sex is illegal in the UK until you are 16. 5 years wouldnt normally be that big of a difference when you are older but when you are going through adolescence as you both are then there could be a great difference in the levels of maturity between you. you say you 'think' he might like you, dont get your hopes up just incase it doesnt turn out how you wanted it to. x

Answer 8

No. 5 years is meaningless if you're 20 and he's 25, but it makes a world of difference at your respective ages... You're too young, and he would go to jail.

14 will get you 20... in the penitentiary.

Answer 9

mmmm my guy and i are 8 years apart. for you at the moment i would say that because he's out of school i dont think so maybe in a few years time. hes going to be exposed to things that you might consider not right and then he forces you into it. (its only a possibility) stay friends and maybe talk about it.

Answer 10

of course no! if you have many things in common - if you have great time together, just imagine there is no difference at all! believe me, it's better to have bf who is older than you, who will understand u well, than the one of the same age who will be childish! moreover, I've heard that scientists found out that to be happy, your boufriend should be at least 5 years older. I know, there are many couples, who are happy with no age difference... but still!... BE HAPPY!