2007-01-04 00:50:44 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Another cheater day question-
....so many questions as to why people cheat. It's all an individual reason; sex, lust, attention, nympho, bored, adrenaline rush, whorish, nasty, curious,etc...
2007-01-04 00:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by Khandi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships provide secrurity. That's why I suspect people cheat, instead of becoming single first. Not wanting to let go of what you have before you know you can have something with than someone else. Like a monkey, not letting go of one branch until they've securely grabbed on to the next branch. Though I think most people who have affairs - fall flat on their face, what goes around, comes around. I agree with other people about it being a self centre act. Also it's driven by excitement and by a lack of reality - the mundane stuff people do with their partners - is exempt from an affair - what I would say though, is if someone has had an affair to be with another person or vice versa - a leopard never changes it's spots!!!! I think it's a shame it happens - I wish people would think more about the destruction is causes to other people's lives - if two people want to be together because they love each other - they should at least be descent enough to talk to their current partners before moving forward with something else.
2007-01-04 01:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by Bee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a thousand possible reasons. But the simple one is that they don't mind hurting other people. Not everyone cheats. I can honestly say that I have never in all my years and different relationships, I have never hurt anyone. It's a conscious decision not to bring pain to others.
They don't know what it's like to suffer a real broken heart to wit such an experience makes us all question what we do.
Theres good and bad in this world and I believe you have to go through 10 bad just to find that 1 good. But life is a lesson. School never ends, but eventually with all that training we find the perfect company to work for. That's the cycle of life, to reach this ultimate place.
2007-01-04 01:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by NoAnswers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they can, and we are not a naturally monogamous animal. Our minds have been trained for millenia to believe that monogamy is the natural state of affairs, but it simply isn't.
This is underlined by the fact that for both sexes it takes either great self control, or extremely strong emotions not to do so.
I suspect that it would also happen a lot more, if attraction were not an issue (ie, anyone would sleep with anyone else), and if we did not fear the consequences of our actions.
2007-01-04 00:57:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My better 0.5 and that i consistently suggested that if both human beings needed to wander then we'd want to tell the different earlier we cheated ..it didnt artwork like that inspite of the indisputable fact that...he has cheated 3 cases and in no way once instructed me about it...first time i stuck him.... 2d time i heard from somebody else even inspite of the indisputable fact that i had suspicions and the merely good time...i merely acknowledged the indicators of the previous 2..... they in no way tell...!! sorry ...yet when i cheated and knew for sure i might want to in no way do it lower back i wouldnt tell in a million years i dont imagine each person might want to...it would want to smash a relationship for what change right into a great mistake
2016-12-01 19:42:10 · answer #5 · answered by rothberg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do because they are no longer 100% happy in the relationship they have, but rather than end it they look for something else to replace it before they are willing to end it. And by then they have been found out and it ends up in a mess or hearting each other, all because they did not wont to be alone or they never had the courage to end the relationship when it was no longer working for them. Sheila.
2007-01-07 21:54:14 · answer #6 · answered by she shaw sea shore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps temptation when feeling at a low ebb. Alcohol/drugs may play a part because they lower inhibitions and dull the conscience. Also a person may feel bored and a quick affair could provide that rush of excitement to chase away the negative feelings and give temporary relief.
2007-01-04 00:56:49 · answer #7 · answered by Birdman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because they are not satisfied with their relationship/marriage and just want to regain their youth back, or they were not thought to respect their gf/bf/husband/wife or they don't care for their families.
2007-01-04 01:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by Faust 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a very good question and I'm sure you'll get lots of interesting answers. I had a boyfriend who cheated on me and he claimed it had nothing to do with me, meaning it wasn't my fault. He was a pretty self-centered person so perhaps that's why he was capable of such betrayal. In the end it cost him me but obviously he must not have valued me much.
2007-01-04 00:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People cheat because they don't know how to commit and love God with alll of their heart, mind and soul. They need God to guide in finding the right partner in life.
If you want to learn more about finding the right person read "Boy meets Girl" by Joshua Harris.
God bless you
2007-01-04 01:03:21 · answer #10 · answered by bs7v7n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know i had no clue 10 years ago and then, wow now i know. its the excitement, and the pleasure of different person. someone you don't argue with and have to answer with. i don't think they want too its just like a drug, you know when you were in your teens before sex, and when you did start you would have to make arrangements to get sex, well that is all i have to say its adults try to get back the natural high of life
2007-01-04 00:55:06 · answer #11 · answered by sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋