My Daughter is just 17 and has been with her boyfriend 2 years and 4 months at first he was lovely but now i dont like him he treats her terribly and lies all the time. His lies are stupid lies like he told her had spent £450 on her for christmas when he only spent about £100 but she felt terrible thinking he had spent all this money & as she had just started a job could not spend even near that. In the end she spent more than him. When ever they go out its always with his family never on there own he even took his mum when she paid for a meal for his birthday!. Anyway she has got friendly with a chap & says they are just friends but he brought her beautiful christmas present and she knows he wants more than to be friends. The other day a girl who's family are friends with him phoned him and my daughter had a major argument and jealously attack. She says she thinks the world of the him and knows if she went out with he would treat her well but she cant/wont finish with boyfriend why ??
2007-01-04 00:32:02 · 4 answers · asked by pinkjaneyjane 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You cant help who you fall in love with. The best thing you can do for your daughter is be there for her and listen to her when she needs a shoulder to cry on. In time she will probably come to her senses and finish with this boy and see him for what he is. Try not to pressure her into finishing with her boyfriend as this will only push them together more. If this other boy is as nice as you say he will be patient and be there for your daughter aswell
2007-01-04 00:42:46 · answer #1 · answered by fallenangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's used to the 2-year boyfriend and kind of scared to change things? Maybe she has insecurity issues and thinks she doesn't deserve to be treated well? Maybe she wants to see the first relationship through to the bitter end before she tries something else? Maybe she has a misplaced sense of loyalty? It is generally considered a good thing to be loyal, but she's got to see that it's not worth being loyal to someone who doesn't treat you well. Maybe, as others have said here, she really loves the boyfriend... and maybe she isn't attracted, deep down inside, to the other guy? I would keep talking to her, carefully, and try to sort out why she won't/can't let go. Good luck!
2007-01-04 01:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by Torchbug 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes prob scared to finish with him. It sounds like shes in a controlling relationship and he controls your daughter and makes her feel small so that she prob thinks that no one else will bother with her. or maybe shes scared because he might threaten her when its over. I love my husband to bits and he can become contorlling sometimes and I can get scared sometimes-its not nice. why dotnt you take her away to some hotel for pampering for a day or 2. I know that every girl loves a pampering and if she says no or cant you know he has control over her. I know this sounds bad but why dont you set up your daughter and this other lad up for a date. If she likes him she'll stay and they'll get chatting to eachother and she might decide that he is the one. But remember that if you do set them up, dont let her fella know anything as it could hurt your daughter if he was to stroll up at the table.
2007-01-08 00:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is in love, you can not tell her what to do, she will make up her own mind
my brother is in the same situation, the family have told him leave his partner but he has stayed, we think he is doiong this to try to prove to us and himself that she is worth it. we all know she isnt but he wont listen
2007-01-04 00:55:50 · answer #4 · answered by alexia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋