Even though you love them, in situations when your partner can sometimes become aggressive and disrespectful does the bad outweigh the good?
2007-01-04 00:20:00 · 17 answers · asked by kim_884 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It will only get worse, and unless he sees the problem and wants to change, he won't. You have to consider, do you want to spend 20 years of your life with a guy like that, who could potentially get worse with each passing day. Eventually the good gets to be so few, that all you have is the bad. It really isn't worth it, trust me.
2007-01-04 00:25:15 · answer #1 · answered by gypsyiiiis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the bad can outweigh the good. It is not good to be in a relationship with someone who is abusive in anyway, physically, verbally, or emotionally. Over time, that behavior is going to chip away at your relationship and your self-esteem. If your gut feeling is telling you to get out...then Get Out! Your instincts are usually correct.
2007-01-04 08:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave too. My father was an alcoholic and he was verbally agressive with my step mother for the first few years of their relationship but as things progressed more he became physically abusive. Even if it is just when he is drinking it is better to get out earlier rather than later...
2007-01-04 08:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by xxx_kakia_xxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely yes, Better now that in 30 years. First they are verbally aggressive with you, then with friends etc. After that he hits you in private, then in front of you children, friends. Worst of all, it is you fault, because you provoked him. Never will admit it was after drinks, he always is sober. The most he will say, he is not proud of what he did, bla, bla,bla.
I don't know what is worst, what he says or does, anyway you lose. Run fast, faster, if you don't want to be an abused loser.
2007-01-04 09:01:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you can say. but ask the right questions. 1 how often does he drink. 2 is it every time he gets drunk . 3 when he drinks does he always get drunk. 4 is he an alchoilic. 5 is this something new. 6 is he willing to stop drinking if told him of your conserns.
This can be a early sign of some one who will abuse you, but not always.
2007-01-04 08:44:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's right to leave. Preserve your dignity and self worth. He has no respect for you. Leave! If he really loves you, he can stop that negative behavior around you. Leaving him could be the one thing he needs to understand the severity of his behavior and its effect on you. It might give you the only chance you have to be a happy couple in the future, assuming he can wake up and modify his behavior.
2007-01-04 08:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by Mary C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How often does he drink?
Is this something you've approached him about while he's sober?
Is it possible you can compromise and he won't drink while around you?
Do you feel threatened when he's been drinking?
These are all questions that need answered before I can give a real opinion one way or the other. LOL
2007-01-04 08:24:00 · answer #7 · answered by Meg M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no good will not just outweigh the bad and it never will. the behavior needs to change or you need to walk away. if you love him try to talk to him about how you feel when he drinks.
2007-01-04 08:23:21 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that the true person comes out when theyre drunk... but maybe try to ask him not to drink around you, because it hurts you. And if he loves you, he will stop, cause no one wants to hurt the one they love, I'd say hold on for a bit and try asking him to stop drinking aroudn you
2007-01-04 08:25:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi!give the guy some time to sample this:sit him down let him know that you dont approve his ways when he is drunk and its either he hits the bottle at a smaller rate or leave it alone coz with time he will start by injuring you badly.let me know how it goes and dont take any crap from him
2007-01-04 08:36:16 · answer #10 · answered by david K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋