My husband is a big mama's boy and for christmas and new year's vacation he drove me crazy. We live with his mother and during his time here (HE IS IN THE ARMY) he spent the day with me and our baby and at night with his mom. He puts his mom before me and our baby. I dont know what to do. His mom calls me selfish and my husband does to. Now that he left back to the military base me and his mom dont get along. any suggestions. He is talking about divorice cause he will not leave his mother. She is ruining our marrgiage. I love him alot. But he needs to separate himself from her.
2007-01-04 00:19:02 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
You say that he spent the day with you and the night with his mom. Well I see him trying to give you each your own time and there's nothing wrong with that. I used to feel that way about my husband and his mom until I realized that by him being so loving towards his mom, made him into a loving husband that respects women. I hope you talk to your husband and that you all can see each others views. Best of Luck!
2007-01-04 02:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by michelle a 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not try to talk to your mother-in-law and see if you can't get on better terms with her be the bigger person your husband will love you all the more for it. Maybe if the two of you could stop fighting he could do something with the both of you and still have private time with you. Please understand with your husband in the military your mother-in-law has worries about him that only a mother can have you know this because of your own child. You have so much in common with her you both love your husband so much, you both miss him and worry about him. This fighting over him must make him feel so bad because he loves you both try getting along for his sake. This to shall pass in the near future hopefully you will have a more normal life with him that will not include living with his mother that is hard to do. The military life is a hard one on families thank you, your husband and mother-in-law. The feelings you have are understandable and I give you so much credit for trying to make your situation better good luck.
2007-01-04 01:14:58 · answer #2 · answered by puzzled 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out, and see what he does when he returns. If he doesn't follow you, then divorce him.
Is he an only child? only son? Is his Father not with his Mother, deceased, or whatever? It isn't that uncommon for this to happen. Getting him to stop will take some tough love. Move out of the house with you child. Are you christian? I am not, as I am an atheist. But, according to christian beleifs, when you marry, you leave your family and join you spouse who should come before all others(not verbatim). Parents of people married are expected to honor that as well. Sounds like neither him or his mother are following that.
2007-01-04 02:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you continue to call if you know she is not picking the phone up? Is she speaking to her son? Let your husband deal with his mother if she can not get over it then stop running after and begging a woman to talk to you. Have a little pride and respect for yourself. If she will not hear your side and is holding a grudge for 7 months I would let my husband talk to his mother as no matter what the two of you said still does not warrant her childish behavior.
2016-05-23 02:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are living with his mother. I guess I'd ask you what you expect? I know it can be hard to support yourself with a baby, but that is exactly what you have to do.
If his mother feels as though you have an attitude and you're living in her home, I'd be mad, too if I were her. She's doing you a BIG favor by letting you stay there.
2007-01-04 00:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by that dead girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree he does need to separate the Love for his Mother from his Marriage.
However I am afraid to say that in my opinion if he is talking about divorce because you feel as though he doesn't spend adequate time with you... his feelings are not nearly as strong for you as yours are for him. I know it's not what you may have wanted to hear but he needs to cut the Apron strings from Mommy! Incidentally how old is Mamma's boy?
2007-01-04 01:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by James M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell is wrong with his mother, enabling her son to act like a child? First of all I don't know why you need to live with his mother, when you can get free housing in military housing. It's better to give up the BAH, than to have to live with your in laws. If he wants to divorce you over his mother, then, let him go.
2007-01-04 07:08:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel... You are the mother to a child, think of when they grow up, you dont want them to totally seperate from you but yes i agree he should seperate himself a little. He needs to see that he is not the little boy he once was and he needs to grow up... if all that fails show him this thread... these are the opinions of everyone.
2007-01-04 00:28:01 · answer #8 · answered by Becki_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very first thing you need to do is move your a** out of his mother's home. If he's in the army then you need to move to his duty station and get a home onbase or out in town if base housing is not available. Make damn sure he understands that his marriage depends on it.
2007-01-04 01:51:15 · answer #9 · answered by Yak Rider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You knew he was like this with his mom right? Well, I think if this is what he wants, show him you don't need him. Get busy. Go to school, work or hang with friends. Maybe he'll get a clue not to take you for granted and his mom is going to continue being his mom.It's hard to cut the cords with them. Trust me I know.
2007-01-04 00:44:03 · answer #10 · answered by StaR'in 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋