Well, I am 14 and can you help me how to be a gentleman to this girl I adore (but we are just friends)? Thank you for your help and I truly appreciate it.
Regards
Asker Knowmore
2007-01-04 00:01:25 · 7 answers · asked by Mr Asker Knowmore 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now on to how to be a smooth gentleman with the ladies...
Make sure to always open doors.....
This is perhaps the most basic rule of male etiquette out there. It is also one of the easiest to follow so you have no reason to forget it. Whether she is about to enter your car, restaurant, club, or anyplace with a door, you should always hold it open. If there are many doors, then hold them open one after the other.
Put on her coat
Always help a lady put on her coat or overgarment. This is a simple but powerful action.
Give up your seat
If a lady arrives at the table and there are no available seats, you should stand up and offer yours to her.
Um....Ask if she needs anything
This is one that most guys already do, but helps complete the gentleman in all of us nevertheless. When at social events, make sure to ask the lady if you can get her something to drink (or eat, depending on the event). Show her that you care about her comfort and needs.
This is a little 4 you..
What are your strengths? What are your weaknesses? Build upon your good qualities, and use them to help improve your poor ones. You are the basis for the whole process. Make a list of things you like about yourself. Then make a list of things you don't like. Get input from your friends on how they feel about you. Look at your lists and see what good habits you already possess, and go from there. Don't just be yourself, be your best self-possible.
Wow...not even my boyfriend is that generouse......
Good luck!
2007-01-04 00:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to be romantic or do you want to be gentlemanly?
There are convergent areas, but I think when you're asking how to be gentlemanly with her, you may be trying to be romantically involved and attentive.
That said, there are three keys to being a Gentleman:
1. Be Courteous, even in an argument or a fight. Harsh language is not a tool for a gentleman. That said, a joke or two or even a carefully veiled lewd comment meant for humor can remain within gentlemanly conduct.
2. Be disciplined and make wise decisions. Measure the consequences of your actions. It's often wise to apply the Rotarian 4 way test to your actions and decisions.
3. Listen, constructively comment, and hold your tongue if you have nothing helpful to say. Sometimes a carefully considered criticism is the most gentlemanly thing to do.
As to romance, be attentive to what she wants, help her to laugh often and spend time with her because you want to be there, and you two should get along famously. If not, find another girl.
2007-01-04 08:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by Jason W-S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, good for you! I'm glad to see a young man asking how to be a good guy instead of how to get laid. You're on the right track. I also suspect that you already KNOW how to be a gentleman. Just be a good person, treat her how you would like to be treated and above all else, do NOT let her take a advantage of you.
Sad to say, some girls will take advantage of a nice guy. My advice, treat her well but don't invest too much time or money just yet. Nice guys tend to think that showering girls with gifts shows they care. You can show you care for free - that way, you will know she is with you because of you and not because of what material things she can get.
I know it sounds harsh and cynical - but trust me, being a nice guy will pay off in the end as long as you do not let people use you. Don't let the bad guys get you down. You sound like a great kid!
Good luck ;-)
2007-01-04 08:05:01 · answer #3 · answered by lookinforanswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being Mr. nice guy is not being a gentleman...your manner and how fair you treat people are what will make you a GENTLEMAN
2007-01-04 08:16:12 · answer #4 · answered by Ethiopic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Key word. Be Nice. Use manners. Listen to someone when they talk before you respond. Just being nice is the key.
2007-01-04 08:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by queenmaeve172000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
treat her like a lady.. just like my bf used to treat me!
But now he's dumped me coz he thinks i'm uglier than him? that's really sad. Oh Lord!
2007-01-04 08:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
IT's innate you know............You don't have to pretend as for something which is not you.
2007-01-04 08:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by jennil 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋