Does age make a difference in a relationship?

Question

I'm 25 and my boyfriends 40 what is the chabces that it will work we've been together for 3 years and things are getting difficult to deel with in many ways than one but cant complain about the bed part now i'm wondering if things are like this just for the beter!

Answer 1

I was with a guy for 11 years and he was 22 years older than i. he was 70 and i am 48, it was the best relatioship ive ever had because he loved and respected me. the only problem i had was that he was extemely jealous i just learned to deal with that part. he just passed away 5 weeks ago and i am very sad and lonely.. my answer is age does not make a difference, its whats put into the relationship.if one of you is not happy then it wont work.

Answer 2

I don't think age matters at all if you love this person and have spent 3 years with him then it obviously does not matter to you either but some people find it difficult to handle in certain situations for example;
My uncle 45 has only had 1 girlfriend in the 20 years iv been alive he finally meets someone who was 18 and my whole family kicked up a stink i didn't care as long as he was happy she ended up leaving him because of my family and it broke his heart.
On the other hand;
My mums aunt who is 52 started dating a guy who was 33 and everyone was like "go for it you got yourself a toyboy" i found it very hard to keep my mouth shut after that every body has the right to be happy it does not matter who with or what age.
Go with your heart and just be happy for you...
Good Luck.

Answer 3

My friend married a man 20 years older than her and she is now 40 and he is 60 - they now want totally different things in life - she is still young where he has become and 'old' man... My sister married a man 15 years older than her - they are still very happy she is 44 and he is 59 - so it really does boil down to the mentality of the people involved - by that i mean will you still have the same interests / wants / needs as you grow older no one can really say but i would say that because you are saying that 'things are getting difficult to deal with' maybe it is better you get out now if you feel that things wont get better - whatever way i wish you luck xxx

Answer 4

Well i am 19 and my ex/man is/was 29. so there was quite an age gap. We had a l,ovely first few years, now its horrible. We are both at different stages of our lives. We argu because i cant see his points of view because i still aint lived enough yet. Which also makes me wanna go out and have fun with friends and go clubbin, but he wants to sit down, have sex, watch tv, smoke weed or sleep. But we hold feelings for each other which is why its so difficult. We are in two seperate places in our lives and we dont go well together but because we feel we love each other, its hard to finally make that break off and leave each other alone. I am kidding myself that it will work, i no it will never work. But its just getting enough courage to end it. I am not saying your relationship is like mine, i am just telling you how mine is, and its eaiser said than done I KNOW but in my opinion you should move on and be free for a while. If you do find you cant live without him then go back and try again. but deep down i think you know what you should do anyway.

goodluck and takecare. xx

Answer 5

Yes and No....Relationships are complicated when you consider the complex variances in the human personality...Compatibility is the key....The problem is that it takes 6 months to a year and a half for a true mates personality to emerge...Generally a person in the 40ish bracket is more mellowed out than a person in 20ish bracket...but of course...many exceptions exist....My feeling is an analytical approach to all relationships will serve you better than a"stars in your eyes approach ....extreme jealousy,obsessive behavior,rapid and or severe anger,poor vocational habits,and poor hygiene are just a few of the negative traits that would best be avoided if you desire a succesful pairing.....remember...there are 3 billion members of the opposite sex in the world....the chances are extremely good that the one you are starry eyed about is not your best choice....I like Woody Allens words on what makes a good relationship.........LUCK.....and i wish you much luck

Answer 6

Three years is a long time.
All though there is a age difference as long as your both happy it doesn't matter.
However based on the rest of your comment there are some underlying issues you guys are having as a couple and it's not age related.
Remember,three years is a long time you might want to try and resolve things before they get worse.
You never know what you have till it's gone.

Answer 7

It sounds as if you may be suffering from Ed Zacarys disease .... I remember a rather difficult situation an old friend of mine's sister once had, poor girl. Apparently she had not even been on a date for around nine years let alone had sex or got laid, so she was talking to one of her girlfriends who told her of a promblem she had with her husband three years before. Apparently they had not been sleeping together as they once did so in some desperation the two of them had gone to a Chinese herbalist doctor, they had eight sessions with him and to this day they had never been to happy together. So, after asking her friend if she would go to any lengths to find change she offered her friend the telephone number. Three days later my friend's sister made the call and made an appointment to see the doctor, very nervous she atteneded at the time offered. She went in and was offered a chair and he began taking her history and asking what her concerns were and why she had come to see him, after telling the doctor of her worries and complaint he asked her if she would go to any lengths in order to find change to which she said she was desperate for change. He then asked her to disrobe to take everything off and to get on her hands and knees and to then crawl across the room, mortified she complied with his directions, once having crossed the room with him making tutting noises she looked over her shoulder to which he motioned her to make the return journey, crawling all the way back to him, all the way seeing him shake his head and continuing his tutting. She then asked him what was wrong, why was he shaking his head and tutting, to which he said that what she had was a serious case ..... one of the worse cases he had seen, she was in semi shock and asked him what he meant and was there any way to remedy what he thought she had. She then asked what it was he thought she had to which he said Ed Zacary's disease, one of the worst cases of Ed Zacary's disease he had ever seen, blown away she said what is Ed Zacary's disease, I've never ever even heard of it, so he explained, it is when your butt looks Ed Zacary like your face.

Answer 8

Age only matters in this case about what you both want for the future, Do you want children and to settle down? If yes you should speak to him and figure out if you both want the same things.

Answer 9

age is only a issue if u make it, as long as ur mentality ia at the same level then it will b fine, u av already been together for 3 years so it sudnt b a problem. relationships end for a reason but if its because of the age then thats stupid. xx

Answer 10

Age hasn't been a problem for us. One of us is 20 years older than the other , we have just celebrated our 27th anniversary, we are still very much in love,{with each other}