i go to work and wen i get back i get questioned its rly bringing me down.
i think he thinks im seeing someone at work and im not
he as to meet me outta work just to make sure.
2007-01-03 23:53:08 · 26 answers · asked by you are my angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
weve been together 6 years its not that easy
2007-01-03 23:56:50 · update #1
i do show him off look at http://360.yahoo.com/profile-PTAA17syeqhBkdek.OPnPCetjeatdA--
2007-01-03 23:59:35 · update #2
thank you all
2007-01-04 00:13:00 · update #3
Sit & have discussions about this
in the open, he loves you too much,
you are a very beautiful woman so
i can see his gut just being ripped
apart when you are not with or near
him, with you being away his mind
will wander & come up with thoughts
that he cannot control because he believes
something to be true, but in his mind
he also knows that what he believes
actually happens in life, so he feels you may
fit the pattern and create all kinds of inner
stories of emotional woes. Sit & talk it out
together, assure him you are his with calm
talking & passion toward your love for him.
gOOd luck Beautiful !!
Oooops, nOw i've done it !!
2007-01-06 19:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by ♪σρսϟ яэχ♪ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isnt you doing anything that makes him feel this way,,it is his problem but blaming you makes it seem ok in his eyes,,he may not even know he has a problem but he does.someone or something has made him like this and he need to acknowledge what that is before he can look at your relationship and see what about it is either the same or different,,did a past girlfriend cheat with a coworker?,did he? has he no faith in commitment because of these or is it something from his parents,,we learn from what we know and experience gives us this knowledge but he hasnt the right to assume you are up to no good just because he 'feels' that way,,does he have proof? do you constantly lie and get found out? do you encourage this insecurity in him? he cannot put blame where it is not due and you should not accept someone who follows you to your place of work to check up on you,you are not a child at school who needs walking home,you are an adult and if he really wants a happy healthy relationship with anyone,not just you he has to get over this or admit he needs proper help to do so,allowing this to continue will only make you feel worse than you do now and that in turn will make you resent him,you wont be happy and THAT in turn will make him believe you have changed so he was right all along,,you are up to something.if he cant put these things together in his head he isnt ready for this kind of adult relationship,no trust no happiness.
2007-01-04 08:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. Reassure him that you are not seeing anyone else (you're not right?) and that you love him very much. Let him know that he is bringing you down with this behavior and that it makes you sad because you feel like he does not trust you when he does this. Do not accuse or yell at him, just state your feelings. See what he has to say. If he SAYS he does not trust you than ask him why. And let him know you want to work this out with him, so neither one of you are unhappy. Because chances are if he is feeling jealous than he is just as unhappy about it as you are.. Even if he gets mad, stay calm. It's all in the way you word things. I'm sure you will be able to resolve this together.
2007-01-04 08:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by cuteness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really serious about this guy go and seek help together maybe somebody else could make him see just how unhealthy the whole jealous thing is , but if it's just a fling then let it go he will only get worse i assure you.
goodluck.
2007-01-04 07:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by jad5552001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is not the problem - you are. Why would you put up with anyone treating you like this? Get your own act together and 'boyfriend' will be history and you'll be asking the question - "everyone plz help my boyfriend is so in love with me I cant handle all the LOVE"!
2007-01-04 07:58:23 · answer #5 · answered by Shoshee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi!its such a pity that your guy cant give you even breathing space.first of all i want to let you know that you have one thing that a man isnt comfortable with:you are independent and that means that you dont need a man to watch over you.the other thing is that you should at least sit down with him and talk it out and if he isnt willing to change then its about time you moved on.let him know that since on your part you trust him then let him know how its gonna go down;if he isnt willing to let you enjoy your freedom rights then let him throw in the towel.let me know how it goes
2007-01-04 08:04:39 · answer #6 · answered by david K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
insecurity can really bring a relationship down, my wife was really insecure when we first got together, and i just told her how i feel, and if they cant respect the way you feel, then you shouldnt be in that relationship. now i get a lot more freedom to do alot of stuff. she trusts me, and thats what keeps our marraige strong.......if it got to the point where you are at now, and you havent cheated on him at all, i would have given up 5 yrs because of that. i cant have jealousy and insecurity in my relationships... hope this helps
2007-01-04 07:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by khjunior1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
Don't dump him, it's really sweet. It may seem annoying right now, but it just means that he cares about you so much. You just have to show him that you like him just as much and if he needs a little more attention then just give it to him. This will all pass, it's just that guys really like loyality in their partner. How long have ya'll been going out? If ya'll have been going out for a long time, maybe he is getting worried because he is falling in love with you and is scared that things might get messed up.
Good Luck! ;)
2007-01-04 07:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by Texas <3 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He probably is seeing someone else but he wants to make your life miserable, because of this reason. You can't stop him, but you can stop yourself. You don't have to put up with the man and his insecurities, it sounds like he is not making any plans to change so you do the changing, you deserve better.
2007-01-04 08:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is:How secure he is in your relationship for past six years?Six years is to long!Ask him Why he acting that way.If he do it again dump him with no uncertainty.
2007-01-04 08:01:48 · answer #10 · answered by jennil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋