what does one do when one is falling in love with a pakistani muslim girl ?

Question

i am a hindu guy and i am falling in love with a muslim girl. i really like her, but if anything happens between us my parents and her parents will not be happy.

Answer 1

hero if u have gone thru all the answers and the suggestions ..and still are ready to take the risk then, i ask u not to cross into pakistan via the mountains of srinagar .. but please request the jawans at wagauh border to let u go and bring ur bride........... tell them ur story, am sure they will understand, for they too would have loved some one in their lonely lives.........

Answer 2

Well, things like that happen everyday... and it will be very hard for both of you.
Because I sincerely don’t believe, that neither your parent nor her parents will approve this relationship. (Due to what happened in the past, they will always remember you that mixed marriages suffered double!!!)
Also, due to my experience with a friend, they would ask you to accept the Muslim religion (and this will be a shock for your family), because a Muslim man is allowed to marry a women with another religion, but the women is only allowed to marry a Muslim.... that’s what the Koran says.
Due to the law you can both marry if you are full of age, no problem. But it might happen, that both families won’t accept that marriage and it will be a hard way to convince them.
be aware that Muslims are even stricter with their girls and think before you approach to her family. Just approach her family when you made your mind up 100% that you will marry her whatever her or your family says and don’t leave her alone afterwards.
(it might be dangerous for her, there are so many crazy things going on with Pakistanis, like honour killings and so on. Don’t let her alone after telling her family; take her with you, whatever happens!! If the family suspects that the girl has had an affair with you and may have lost her virginity it might become extremely dangerous for her!!!)
Anyway, if you both want to be together and if you are financially independent, you could go a step ahead and be together with your love and marry her. But don’t count on the help of the families.
Normally families get used to such situations afterwards when the couple has married (because now there is nothing to do against it) and when you have children.
But also, you should think about the children. What religion will they have?
You must be aware of everything and speak honestly with the girl to make up your minds together and solve out all these questions before going a step ahead.
Good luck - and remember: Love is the most beautiful gift! Don’t play around with someone’s feelings.
If you both agree - be happy!!!

Answer 3

First of all, looks don't mean anything!!! The fact that you are cute and she is just okay looking means nothing...The real question is, can Muslims and Christians have a successful relationship? Is is possible for the two to live peacefully, and raise a peaceful family? I don't know... Is it possible for a christian to fall for a muslim? Yes! but I do know that it's a lot easier when both parents are of the same religion.

Answer 4

It is difficult and need some sound thinking. It is fine if both of you settle down after marriage some where out side these two countries. Oherwise one of you have to change the religion and also the nationality. Changing both will be trumatic to the one who has to undergo. Further in this part of world marriage does not occur between two souls but is the meeting of two families rather two cultures. So their cooperationis also must.

Answer 5

Parents do not control your life. This hurts me because about a year ago my very good friend Maria who was Pakistani was dating a boyfriend her parents didn't like for 2 years. The guy was clean cut, college degree, sweet as ever, and her parents just didn't like the fact he was from Afghanistan because they were from Pakistan....like that's a HUGE difference? So anyway they flew in some guy from Pakistan who had a lot of money, and made her marry him. Isn't that sick? If she didn't do it. Her parents would have disowned her. If you love her, follow your heart. It's 2007, race hardly matters anymore. Both of your parents need a reality check.

Answer 6

wel you need to think about what is more impartant. obviously your family expect you to marry a hindu person. do you think that your parents will come round to the idea about her being muslim? do you want tomarry her? wil she convert for you?
happyiness is everything but you need to take into consideration how much do you value your parents opinion?

any last but not least... does she have brothers, if so, id be careful.

im muslim and my brother married an italian, but parent were evry happy but soon came round as they saw how happy they were. your parent only think about what your community will think of the idea.

Answer 7

so wot just marry her but your parents will care
espicelly the girls parents cos nothing happens to boy's only 2 girls and espiecially if they marry a hindu or a christian some parents even kill thier daughters for doing that and i am sooooooooooooo happy that some indian likes a muslim girl and u know wot tell her 2 ask her parents and if they say no than tell her not to marry u cos it will cause a big problem u can just keep a friendship where dose she live in indai or pakistan and dont listen to joncabot a he is rude to my religion and that girl u fancy i am muslim can u add me to your list so we can chat there about your problem my id is [e-mail] pl;ease plaese add me than i will tell u wot 2 do cos i am muslim myself

Answer 8

Tell her how you feel but before going into a serious relationship take into consideration your religious differences.
If you wish to be with a muslim woman, be prepared to accept her faith because to her faith comes first. Then when she gets married, she will follow her husband to whatever end.

In Islam, there are 3 responsibilities for a woman:
- Worship Allah
- Respect and treat her husband well
- Fasting during Ramadhan

So for a woman who is true to her faith, what promises her a good afterlife is what she does before she dies. And if you really do love her, your sacrifice will be that you have to change your religious views in order for you to live together. Even if it's not perfect at first.
So listen to your heart. It is your choice.

All the best.

Answer 9

If you are happy with her that is all that matters. If your parents or hers have a problem with it then they are prejudice beyond belief. There is nothing wrong with falling in love with someone who is a different race then you. You see it more and more everyday. It is very common. There is nothing you can do. Love is Love. You can't pick who you fall in love with. My parents are not particulary happy with me being in love with someone who went to jail, and his are not too happy with him being with someone that is a little younger than him. People have their own opinions and ideas of whom you should be with for the rest of your life but it is ultimately your decision. And if you love this woman than do what your heart tells you. Don't listen to the rest of the world or your family. They should respect that. They got to choose whom they married now they need to let you do the same. GO FOR IT!

Answer 10

I think you must marry her if both of you are agreed.There is no point to see that who is Muslim, Who is Hindu, Who is Christian etc etc in the upgraded world.All our blood are red. It is the matter of two real hearts.That's all.So pls do try to convince of parents (both side).At last love the word is not for a joke.If you have started to buildup this word then you have to complete it.