I have lied to my girlfriend about what i do for a living and I am so stupid! Its not far from the truth but big enough and she has found out. Also take into account the little lies to keep the big one going. This relationship is four months old and I am transferring to be closer to her. The job offer is firm etc and over 100 miles from my family and friends. She last night said there is a 60% chance she will finish. Her family arer aware of the situation and obviously mixed in opinion.She is driving down tm (100 miles) to talk about it. Whoever reads this I am a good person who got caught in a lie not a liar. It went too far and now I face consequences of losing the person I love dearly and having to move to a place where I know no one. The lie was I was a doctor - I am a radiologist. Very similar in there roles and qualifications but basically a lie. Its all the lies surrounding it. How do I persuade her to give us a go tommorrow. Please help I am truly in need
2007-01-03 23:13:37 · 20 answers · asked by master 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Come out in the open COMPLETELY. Be absolutely truthfull. Tell her why u did it. However stupid the reason is. Also make sure you do not justify that both are technically the same, unless that was really the reason. Tell her the real reason why u did it. Tell her u accept it was a mistake and are willing to do anything to rectify it. just dat u dont want to lose her over something as stupid as this.
Tell her you take full responsibilty of your lie and will only hope that she forgives u. Tell her that.
2007-01-03 23:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by tornjeansandguitar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the beginning of most relationship, everyone tells white lies. She is not done with this relationship, she is driving to see you, rather is 100 miles or 2 miles,she wants and needs to see your face, so she can see and feel what you have to say, That's good. You did a job, with what you have written here so stay with that and as you say How stupid you were, she will feel that. Don't over do it. just be you. the rest will work it self out.
2007-01-04 07:23:52 · answer #2 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you can probably say that you wanted to impress her and a doctor seemed to be a little more impressive that radiologist (in my opinion I don't understand the need to lie- not like they're so far apart).
Love allows for mistakes because you want so much to live for that person that you give them chances. My fiance hid something from me that hurt a lot and it was a lot worse than your little lie, I gave him a chance because I want to believe we have a bright future.
The most you can do is hope and pray that she puts your love above all else and gives anther shot.
Don't do it again.
2007-01-04 07:19:29 · answer #3 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm always saying "Being honest is so important in a relationship. It is the foundation of which love is built on." I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time. I bet you don't lie to her again. I have a feeling that she'll forgive you once you apologize to her. Basically just spill your guts to her and beg for forgiveness. It sounds like it's blown out of proportion. Once she sees you and has a tizzy then she'll calm down and forgive you but warn you never lie to her again, which you promise her you wont lie anymore. This is a heck of a way to start out your relationship with her but once you are through all the B.S. you will have a stronger bond with her. It's gonna be okay just stay calm and remember it's worth all the trouble for love.
2007-01-04 09:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is more what you think about yourself do you think you are not good enough? If that is your problem you could make problems in the future by lying if you feel you don't measure up to your girlfriends expectations. As long as you do a honest days work someone that loves you should accept you. If she is about money and not willing to build a future with you she might not be for you. You are good enough but no one likes a liar so stop it. It is not about the size of the lie you tell its about the trust you break.
2007-01-04 07:34:26 · answer #5 · answered by puzzled 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but you might be screwed.
All you can do is admit your deception, tell her EXACTLY why you did it (your feelings, etc.), reassure her that you feel horrible about it and you still want to keep her and beg for forgiveness.
She might just drop you right there so be ready for that.
If she keeps you, expect her to be suspicious about you in all ways for awhile. Allow her to do this and work to show her that you can be trusted.
Learn from your mistakes: 1. It is always, ALWAYS a bad idea to lie to women. 2. What's wrong with being a radiologist? You make a fine living. Don't be so obsessed with money. Be more concerned with who you are and how you live.
2007-01-04 07:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That isn't a real lie.
Tell her the truth.
Fact is......you will always have a good, well paying job.
Tell her the truth. Don't say I told you a lie. Just tell her that you are a radiologist. Simple.
2007-01-04 07:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain yourself to her. Tell her the truth. This is one of those times a little lie can have big consequences. Good Luck.
2007-01-04 07:37:10 · answer #8 · answered by v 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lesson learned. You don't deserve her. Dr and Radiologist aren't even close. You have other issues to deal with obviously. I'm a paramedic...that's closer to being a doctor than you are, and I don't say I'm a doctor.
2007-01-04 07:20:20 · answer #9 · answered by father of 4 husband of 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. I did similar thing. It was dumb, dumb dumb. The good news is, there can be life after a huge lie. It's fine now. That's been years ago. I feel your pain. Hang in there and make it work. Amor Vincet Omnia. (love conquers all)
2007-01-04 07:16:43 · answer #10 · answered by £º$∑® 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋