Should next of kin of the deceased expect gifts at the wake or funeral?

Question

Just curious as to what I should expect

By gifts, I mean money.

Answer 1

Expect? No, they should not.
But it is a custom here to tuck a small amount of cash in a card, and give that. Not everyone can afford flowers, and some live too far away to send or bring a dish to the wake.
I got several cards with money in them when my Dad died. It helped a little. I got a few cards with $5, and one with $50. I sent each one a thank you note.
It gives the recipient the freedom to do what they want/need to with the money, give it to charity, or pay bills with it.

Answer 2

I've never heard of money or gifts, unless a trust or memorial fund has been established in the persons name, and that's usually only in special occasions like a young surviving child of the deceased or a tragic death with donations given to charity. The only "gifts" I normaly give a family is food. Flowers are normal too, but I never see the purpose in them. When someone has passed that usually means alot of family in town, and no one ever feels like cooking, so I feel a meal is very appropriate gift at this time.

Answer 3

No. People should not expect anything from other people. In our society, sending flowers to the funeral is a good gesture. Contributing to the favorite charity of the deceased, in lieu of flowers, is a common practice when the family requests it.
Giving gifts of cash may be acceptable if you know the family cannot afford the funeral expenses.

Answer 4

Not gifts, but flowers for the departed, and , in some parts of the country, neighbors would bring in food so those in grief do not have to worry about cooking. This may not be the practice where you live, however, I've never heard of someone getting "gifts" at a funeral. No mixmaster for you.

Answer 5

No. I've never heard of people expecting anything at a wake or a funeral. Your their to pay your respect to the departed. Not to bring the family gifts. Gifts are not appropriate to bring.

Answer 6

Don't give the merchandisers any ideas!!

No one should ever "expect" gifts at any occassion!

But at a funeral or wake? Yikes. So many bad and inappropriate jokes are coming to mind. But I will control myself.

If people want to help you out with the costs, then they should see you privately. Although if it is the costs you need help with, in the death notice, you can ask that in lieu of flowers money be donated to ABC Bank to defer the costs of the burial. You will need to find a bank that can help you with this.

Answer 7

The family of the deceased should not expect any monetary gifts but in Singapore, it's common to donate to the family of a deceased. It happens even if the family is well to do. In Chinese wakes, I've even observed them having a notebook and writing down the name and amount. It was definitely surprising but funny too.

Answer 8

Gifts?! Never heard of such a thing! I think gifts are meant to be given during celebrations - births, weddings, graduations, birthdays, promotions...not funerals!
If you like, bring a food item to the wake or maybe donate money to some charity on behalf of the deceased in lieu of flowers, but please, not a gift for the bereaved!

Answer 9

because of the fact the funeral house is a public place particular his young ones can go see him. If there is going to be a difficulty the youngsters can party and contact the funeral homestead and ask for a "inner maximum viewing" so as that there would be no turmoil. they're going to do it for you. additionally all people can attend if there's a funeral mass yet whilst there is going to be a tiff on the plot then in line with risk they might desire to stay their distance and placed plant life on the grave somewhat somewhat of on precise of casket after the hot spouse has left.

Answer 10

Not gifts, really. Flowers are customary at a funeral and (in some communities, anyway) ready-to-bake meals at a wake.