It seems like spending huge amounts on it is the politically correct thing to do,instead of going the cheapest route and having just the bride and groom and minister and a few family members on each side.As long as they love each other,isn't that what counts the most?
2007-01-03 22:40:35 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I agree with you that it is somehow silly to spend huge amount of money just for the ceremony. Instead, all this money should be used from the young couple for a honeymoon or house furnitures etc. The ceremony should be just nice with few loving relatives and friends and maybe followed by a small party given at you home.
2007-01-03 22:46:36 · answer #1 · answered by Alice in Wonderbra 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what you and your spouse want for your big day. Nothing is wrong with going cheap, just make sure that both of you are in aggreeance about how you want things to be. I owul dhate for her to along with you only to be disappointed in the end because it wasn't how she wanted it to be.
I was all for the small wedding with maybe 20 people, and a large elaborate "recpetion" or as I call it a PARTY a few days later. However I married into a family that would literally pitch a fit without the pomp and circumstance of the BIG event. They are about the show of the matter, me not so much! So we had a weddign for over 600, with 9 bridesmaids, 9 groomsmen, 3 flower girls, 2 ring bearers, 2 carpet rollers, 5 ushers (one of them was killed just a few days before the wedding and we didn't feel right to replace him), one jr bride and one jr groom. I think I haven't left anyone out, needless to say, it was way over the top, but it pleased him and his family. We managed to be in every society magazine within 100 miles, and it became the must go to event of the year, but it made the family look good to the town and the guests. It was, in my opinion, politically motivated and selfish reasons to want this, but as I said, they were pleased so...
The point is, make sure you both agree on what type of event you want, I still feel somewhat upset that I was made to have the bigf event, and yes I enjoyed it, but I would have just as much rathered have the small intimate ceremony!
Good luck, and do what the two of you want! Small and inexpensive isn't tacky! Tacky is cheap-obviously cheap. Weddings can be done on a small scale and still be inexpensive and classy!
2007-01-04 01:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right idea! I agree totally that spending all of that money is a waste. I had a lovely wedding with only 25 people in attendance. had the reception in the church basement. No alcohol. No DJ. Catered delicious food that only cost about $250. Everyone had a great time!!! My beautiful Jessica McClintock dress was on clearance for $300 down from almost $1000. When you get married, spend the money on a downpayment for a house, or a killer honeymoon!!! Also you avoid the terrible stress that a big wedding creates.
2007-01-03 22:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Spending a fortune on your wedding isn't the most important thing. The first time I got married, we did our wedding on a budget. I believe we were able to keep the cost just under $1500 for a nice wedding. The trade off is you end up doing more of the work.
The second time around I got married in Korea (the first marriage was to an American) and we hired a wedding hall and they did all of the work (except for making wedding invitations of course). I have to say it was nice to have them do all the work and the cost was about $3,000.
2007-01-04 00:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by milwaukiedave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with you and when I got married, I went the cheap route. It is foolish to spend a few hundred to a few thousand dollars on a dress you are only going to wear one day (I bought a short dressy one that I was able to use on many occassions after I was married).
Inexpensive does not equal not memorable and it really should be about the joining of two people before God, not some little girl's fantasy where she gets to be princess for a day and about the event itself as there is only a huge let down afterward when that day had come and gone, not lived up to her expectations and there is nothing else that big (or so she perceives) to look forward to in her life again.
2007-01-03 22:46:38 · answer #5 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with having a frugal wedding if that is what you want.
My wedding was very small and very inexpensive. I thought it was as nice as any large wedding I have attended. My family and I did most of the cooking and decorating. We used a small church pavilion for both the ceremony and the reception. Each of us had one person standing with them as a witness. Invitations and announcements were done by me on the computer. My dress was bought from a department store and was very simple. I was more excited about getting married than the presentation. I probably spent more on postage for my (again, done on the computer) thank you cards than most everything else.
2007-01-03 22:57:36 · answer #6 · answered by mreheather6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with it. I wouldn't have it any other way. I have friends who spend thousands only to get divorced in a yr and are still paying for it. My wedding ring cost $165.00-is really nice and my husband's cost $135. Not bubble gum machine either.I bought a small little cheesecake from this place for my cake-with bride and groom on top that was delicious. I believe that it is so wasteful to spend exorbitant amount on flowers-which I bought a bouquet at Kroger's the morning of the ceremony (and people were asking where I got them and couldn't believe it). and things that are not necessary.Do what you want. I did and I was happy!!!!!
2007-01-03 22:47:41 · answer #7 · answered by Pesty Wadoo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-29 23:23:53 · answer #8 · answered by boddie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absoulutely nothing is wrong with that. We did. We spent a total of 300 dollars on ours. We got married outside in a gazebo and had the reception at our house. I have to admit though, I kinda wish at times I had had the beautiful white dress. I had a white dress, but a white sundress. That is the only thing I can honestly say that I would do over. But it was still a wonderful day.
2007-01-03 22:55:21 · answer #9 · answered by Shari 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah of course e love is important. But since this is a once a lifetime thing for MOST people, people are willing to fork out more money for a special and extravagant one-and-only day. As for the OTHERS, I don't know. Is this a trick questinon? o.O
2007-01-03 23:42:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋