Me and this woman have been spending some time together. We like each other, get along and everything. But most of our talking is small talk. How was your day, blah blah blah. And we run out of things to say pretty easily and it makes it difficult to talk to each other. We are both shy, and I'm (and I'm sure her also) nervous about asking more personal questions. I'm afraid of asking something inappropriate. We both need to get to know each other a little more. We've covered interests and everything, but I want to get a little deeper than that. What kind of questions do you guys suggest I ask, that's wouldn't be to unappropriate right now. Just something that might spark up deeper conversations so we can get to know each other more on a personal level.
2007-01-03 22:38:18 · 9 answers · asked by Blayzn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take her to the movies and after that you will have something to talk about. Go somewhere where there is a subject right in front of you so you have things that stimulate your conversation. Soon both of you will open up to one another and share things from your past and present. No one can really tell you what to say....it all depends on your interests and personalities...If she tells you she is interested in something then read up on it or use the search engine here and find out something about it. It would be something you could keep in your pocket when you get stuck in a quiet moment and sweating. Best of luck you are lucky she is not a talk-a-holic and there are quiet moments....happy new year 2007
2007-01-03 22:50:38 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Jazzy Geri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play 21 questions!!!! The best game to break through to the real person underneath, and it's fun! you ask her a question, she asks you one back, but it can't be one you asked her. You'll never get to 21, cause the convo will always lead somewhere else, into other conversations.
Good luck, it's a fun game!
tips - whats your dream vacation
-whats your best memory?
-first sexual thought ?
-who was your first friend, if she can remember?
things like that... just random questions...
-if you could be anywher ein the world right now, where would it be ?
2007-01-03 22:44:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two have like personalities which could break loose or remain in a unsure mode. Take her out to something with an outside influence, like Bingo or a sports game, and see if that helps loosen up the talk.
2007-01-03 22:50:14 · answer #3 · answered by spareo1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears to me, depending on your ages that you do not match or click together and it probably won't get any better. The best way to talk with someone without offending them is to be candid.
If she is worth the effort, then you need to take charge, if not she will be history soon anyway. It takes 2 to make you a couple so you need some common ground or points of interest.
2007-01-03 22:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by AJ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You say it all right here. Tell her what you've put in your question. Just be honest and tell her you'd like to know her better. At this point I think any talk about sex would be a possible landmine(blow up in your face). It's scary to open yourself up to another person but you got to do it sometime.
2007-01-03 22:46:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask personal questions about her past, and she shouldn't you. Don't worry everything will be OK. Sounds like your both are taking it slow, and that's good.
2007-01-03 22:44:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get her to ask you questions and then just listen. Number one rule--let her do all the talking.
2007-01-03 23:17:42 · answer #7 · answered by Mr_B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say to her what you just said to us. Good luck
2007-01-03 22:41:28 · answer #8 · answered by Rick R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her about her opinion on anything and move on from that.ask why a lot, then you'll see how her mind works.ask how and you'll see how she behaves
2007-01-03 22:41:15 · answer #9 · answered by la lang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋