If your lover chose someone else over you how would you deal with this? What kinds of things would you tell yourself to feel better? I'm a bloke by the way
2007-01-03 22:11:08 · 12 answers · asked by dsfsdd d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
at first, if he will find his happiness with some1 els, i will be happy 4 him
but according 2 me: i should accept that coz it's not the end of life =/ life is go on & we shouldnt stop at this point& i guess i will find the 1 who love & care about me & even if am faithful with that love doesnt die but nothing by my hand & i should live my life & u will gradually forget him/her
& remember life doesnt worth all of this pain
good luck =)
2007-01-03 22:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Donna♫ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Words are important here. You didn't specify genders in your question, but I think I'd be on the safe side in saying that a lover is someone you think you love, as opposed to a partner who's someone you F***.
F***ing is of little or no importance in the long run. Let a partner be a partner, and you don't want to pass a judgment on that. It's anybody's choice to choose a bed partner. Business contract an' all that crap y'know.
A lover is something else. Let not the other one slaughter your own feelings, 'cuz they are your own. It's your entire privilege to love somebody without being paid in return. You'll know that when you can see your stature has grown despite your former lover's jeers at you. Tell you what, it pays off in the long-term.
Best of luck.
2007-01-04 06:39:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. I have just taken it like a man and let her accept the consequences of her actions (like the guy she chose to be with isn't who she hoped he'd be). And when she came back to see if we can start over I said no because I'm not some consolation prize she can take home because what she thought was the grand prize wasn't up to par. I'm a human being and have feelings too. There's nothing you can really say except for that's life and life can suck but you got to live and learn
2007-01-04 07:46:40 · answer #3 · answered by DLG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say to urself that u were too good for that person and ofcourse the world doesn't end with that person ,im telling u frm my experience thinking about this matter will only hurt u more and more i would say, rather try to see around u there maybe someone who loves you.just overcome it i knw its not easy.Whoever has done this to u doesn't knw what has that person lost and by thinking about it u r puinishing urself ,look at the person who has dumped u she must be happy then why are u taking so much of pain just rub it off and move ahead.Life will definately have sweet suprises for u just put a smile on ur face and welcome it
ALL THE BEST
2007-01-04 06:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by Neha K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just say to myself:
If it was meant to be then it would of been and there is someone else out there for me when my heart is ready. I will not let myself sit here and be miserable. I will get out there and get involved with friends, family, a class, a hobby, volunteer somewhere. I will move on.
2007-01-04 06:14:37 · answer #5 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make changes Infidelity is usually a symptom of a weakness in a person; It may not immediately feel good to turn away from.
2007-01-04 06:16:30 · answer #6 · answered by dandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear look i had the same situation , and now i feel better because i know in deep of my heart that i will find better, even i have feelings but i can ignore it and this feelings will disappear after while. so be happy she lose u, the perfect man in the world... allot of girls wants u and need u, just wait your wink from u just to come to u.
be happy inside that this girl never deserve u, u deserve more than her, more beautiful more funny more clever OK...
smile smile smile
go out with your friends, do something u love, read jokes and listen to me if u want to be happy hhhhhhhhh
this is the smile that we waiting it ok
2007-01-04 06:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to keep yourself busy for a while. Not talking to the person also helps! Just try surrounding yourself with people that make you happy.
2007-01-04 06:13:21 · answer #8 · answered by g00dapple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
besides feeling terribly sad....
i would tell myself i got a bit of freedom at least; dont have to report myself to him everyday
i can find myself another person which is thousands more times better than them
i am going to make them jealous
2007-01-04 06:15:52 · answer #9 · answered by lizze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id be sad and cry. .i dont know what would make me feel better thought. . but im a grl so i dont know how it would be for a male in this position
2007-01-04 06:19:00 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋