i'm am a fourteen year old girl and i have no 'real' friends , i dont go out in the evenings or the weekends . I blame it on my confidence. When I try to talk to people i know what i want to say but I cant actually say it. when I am in class I dont talk to anybody I just sit quietly on my own. I cant even keep eye contact with anybody that is'nt really close to me . please help me.
2007-01-03 21:31:14 · 9 answers · asked by sophie_masson 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
take it easy. And don't fear anyone or anything.
It takes time. Make the right friends who can boost ur confidence. God bless u.
Keep smiling inside, and u will automatically be more attractive, and confident on the outside to.
2007-01-03 21:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by just me.. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could try taking up an activity / going to some kind of club outside your normal social circle and use the fresh start / clean slate to experiment. You just have to understand that nothin bad comes of being outgoing even if you goof up.
Doing it away from people you'll see every day lets you goof up and not get any abuse about it every day. You could go out and dress differently, try and put on a totally different mindset when you go to the new club / activity. Greet everyone, ask how they are, how long they've been coming, agree to join in fun activities, pipe up and ask questions which you're sure to have as a newbie etc. etc.
If that helps you grow in confidence then that will feedback into the rest of your old activities / normal day to day life.
It's better to regret something you did than something you didn't do, there's literally nothing to lose.
2007-01-04 05:38:34 · answer #2 · answered by Judge G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, First of all...YOU ARE NOT OLD GIRL. Consider yourself as a YOUNG, Energetic and Beautiful.
To gain confidence, Do following:
Go to window shopping. Don't purchase but ask for information for a particular product or service. Just listen to them.
Visit to Exhibition/ Trade Shows and visit to those stand where less crowd. Ask them what do they offer. If possible ask more insider question.
Go to public events or Free Seminars. Watch people how do they talk and behave with others.
In fact there are a lot of exercises you can do but will make you confused. So, at the moment Do above and see your self more positive.
All the best.
Ali.
2007-01-04 05:44:45 · answer #3 · answered by IdeaAdvisor 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. Im a bit like that and Im 29!!!
The key is to be comfortable in yourself. Spend a little time learning what you want to do with yourself, and what makes you happy. confidence comes in all shapes and sizes. Maybe work on what makes you feel good, like clothes or your hair or something.
Also when it comes to talking to people, take a deep breath before you say anything. Remember a lot of people talk and dont have anything to say.
Confidence doesnt come easy you really have to work on it. Dont feel bad becuase of it. Everyne has confidence problems, they just show it in different ways.
Make yourself happy !!! Dont worry about others......
2007-01-04 05:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem. and i could never figure out why and it was really frustrating for me because i wanted to participate and have fun, go out and do things people normally do. well i found out about two years ago i have anxiety and thats why i am like that. the signs of anxiety are you get really nervous over little things most people dont lik ordering your food or answering a question in class, increased heart rate, excluding yourself from things, not being able to talk to anyone even though you want to things like that and my best advice to you is to see a doctor about this and ask about it. there is medication and help out there!!
2007-01-04 05:49:43 · answer #5 · answered by kara m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys, everybody felt lonely sometimes. But being here talking with persons from all over the world shows that you can participate in everything, talk with anybody and that you have nothing less than all the others!! Look yourself in the mirror and see that you're not different! And when you'll do have friends, be sure that they worth it.
2007-01-04 05:45:06 · answer #6 · answered by Maria...* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep trying, trying again and again. practice being superoutgoing at an activity or place you know nobody at. Chances are there is people there who are interested in meeting you... but be careful of pervs.
chances are you should NOT take drugs for this in reference to a previous comment. Thats a dealer at work hunting for prey. there is no such thing as a happy pill.
just dependancy and weakness tripping.
2007-01-04 05:53:18 · answer #7 · answered by matt_of_asia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk with head up taking stock of every thing around you and keep moving
2007-01-04 05:40:59 · answer #8 · answered by evertalall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound exactly like me except I am three years older than you and am a dude. We will probably have to wait until we can find people around us who can understand us.
2007-01-04 05:37:36 · answer #9 · answered by porphyria89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋