Why am i being so weird!!??? Advice please peeps?

Question

why do i get so annoyed with him - we live together and have been together for 5 years. i get annoyed when he goes out with his friends and i dont want to be like that - the other night he went out and i was supposed to pick him up yet he got a lift home off a girl who he his friends with - he didnt let me no just turned up and said he had a lift home. he goes out about once or twice a week yet it really bothers me and i dont want to be like that - i want to say see ya later have a nice time - i need help i know i sound like a loon but why cant i just let him have time with his friends like i do without it bothering me.
i should add most of the time he is the most wonderful boyfriend but the minute he says he is going out when i have no plans i get so annoyed and think why does he want to go out than stay in with me???

no i didnt ask this question

yesterday

Answer 1

I remember that feeling very well with my ex. Needless to say, I was in the wrong. Find yourself somthing to do(eg. go to the gym) when he is gone. Then, when he gets back you can tell him all about the "oh so wonderful bloke" who showed you how to_____________(please fill in, LIFT WEIGHTS

Answer 2

I'm guessing that when he goes out, you feel like you're stuck at home and not having fun. So you should both plan to have your free nights out, he with his friends and you with yours. It's good to have a bit of space from each other occasionally, and it gives you something to talk about when you're back to gether.
There is a little bit of insecurity I think, in your question. Are you wondering what he's up to without you? Or wondering what he is saying about you when you can't hear him?
I wouldn't get too possessiveness, that is an absolute turn-off in any relationship. If there is no reason why this feeling has come on, then it will probably pass in its own time - might just be winter blues. But I would definitely plan a girls' night out at the same time, so that you don't feel left out and also it takes your mind off it.
Hope it sorts itself out soon. Good luck

Answer 3

If he is going out with his boy friends and it involves some girlfriends too? I can understand you, honey! You are not at all weird!!! Twice a week is a bit too much for going out without your partner. I'm not saying you should never allow him to go out but... God, be reasonable!?
I think you two should have a chat, let him know how you feel, that it upsets you. If he cares about you and wants this relationship to work, he'll adjust.
When you are in a relationship, it's both of you, that count, so talk, maybe he doesn't even realise it bothers you?
Good luck! ;-)

Answer 4

You don't need an answer, you know and feel in your gut what the heck is going on. Don't act like it isn't bothering you, and you will do something when "you" have had enough. Don't be no body's fool. Give respect where respect is due, 5 years gone by and you seem not to be happy. Isn't your happiness worth anything. How would he feel if another male brought you home after a night out, workout the scenario with your eyes open and if your eyes are open, you won't have to cry later. God Bless.

Answer 5

In the end males are still predators. Question really is can you trust him. I'd talk to him about how you feel, but let him know you are ok with him going out and needing space. after all everyone needs time with friends and time away from partners. Maybe it gives him an escape so that he comes back to your relationship feeling refreshed and happy, it might be worth exporing this option yourself and letting him know that he's going out but u need to go out with some girlfriends too.............

Answer 6

Absence makes the heart grow fonder. A little space between you now and again will ensure a healthy relationship. It's not good being in each other pockets all the time.
So being apart a little will allow you to appreciate him even more when he is at home.

Answer 7

I remember a rather difficult situation an old friend of mine's sister once had, poor girl. Apparently she had not even been on a date for around nine years let alone had sex or got laid, so she was talking to one of her girlfriends who told her of a promblem she had with her husband three years before. Apparently they had not been sleeping together as they once did so in some desperation the two of them had gone to a Chinese herbalist doctor, they had eight sessions with him and to this day they had never been to happy together. So, after asking her friend if she would go to any lengths to find change she offered her friend the telephone number. Three days later my friend's sister made the call and made an appointment to see the doctor, very nervous she atteneded at the time offered. She went in and was offered a chair and he began taking her history and asking what her concerns were and why she had come to see him, after telling the doctor of her worries and complaint he asked her if she would go to any lengths in order to find change to which she said she was desperate for change. He then asked her to disrobe to take everything off and to get on her hands and knees and to then crawl across the room, mortified she complied with his directions, once having crossed the room with him making tutting noises she looked over her shoulder to which he motioned her to make the return journey, crawling all the way back to him, all the way seeing him shake his head and continuing his tutting. She then asked him what was wrong, why was he shaking his head and tutting, to which he said that what she had was a serious case ..... one of the worse cases he had seen, she was in semi shock and asked him what he meant and was there any way to remedy what he thought she had. She then asked what it was he thought she had to which he said Ed Zacary's disease, one of the worst cases of Ed Zacary's disease he had ever seen, blown away she said what is Ed Zacary's disease, I've never ever even heard of it, so he explained, it is when your butt looks Ed Zacary like your face.

Answer 8

He for sure did no longer touch you in any way. for twenty-four years no person has complained .he's been with this female for 9 years. She has no courtroom situations. Your mom on no account complained. You on no account complained. there is two boys and that they have on no account complained. Your sister has on no account complained. What ever he did 24 yrs in the past is previous information. Heck you assert your self it wasn't even information 24 yrs in the past. permit it bypass. the only factor you will accomplish via bringing this up on the doorstep-mom is reason worry for no reason. you're able to desire to even positioned your dad in possibility of a pretend criticism. What happens in case you carry this up and then while he tells certainly one of her little ones, No you won't be in a position to have an xbox because of the fact which you have become undesirable grades. If that youngster used your little bit of information to accuse you dad of molestation out of spite. Who could be in charge? supply it a relax. If he's a molester he gets caught. you won't be in a position to dodge a baby from being molested. no you could. All you're able to do is be a sister to those little ones and a daughter on your father, mom and step-mom. Your mom and your father chop up. you probable heard your mom vent to plenty while he remarried. it is probable once you began getting sick. it is not your fault or your mothers or your dads. existence is what it is. i'm specific your dad on no account wanted to break you and neither did your mom. issues merely fall apart. undesirable judgements to plenty rigidity. This international has very few issues to grant different than chaos. Ive been going to psychiatrist for 20 yrs. You wanna understand whats incorrect with me? Psychiatrist !

Answer 9

Why aren't you going out with him? If it's just the guys then how did that gal pal come into it?
You feel annoyed because you want him to spend time with you to. Maybe he isn't spending time with you enough.

Answer 10

Enjoy life get on with it whilst you can, stop worrying and moaning at him, either go out with him or go out with your mates! You will have less time to worry about why hes going out and who's bringing him home!

whats good for one is good for another!!!!