I can't say anything w/o my daughter in law making it about her. I've lost my son just because he loves her. Well guess that is all I can do w/o smacking her in the mouth. I have never done anything to this girl. EVER! But she actually hates me. It started when she wouldn't even invite myself or my Dad to their wedding because she thinks we are an embarrassment. Guess my son has been the one to let it happen and that really hurts. I'm so glad I can chat my issues on here and not be judged.
2007-01-03 21:21:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
At some point you have to worry about yourself first. I have had many problems with my two oldest children. I have never been able to become close to my oldest grandchild due to the fact that they always want me to jump through hoops to get time with him. He is 14 now and I don't even know him. I am sorry for that but i can't change my life to fit their needs. I always felt I was pushed aside by my daughter-in-law but my life is too short to allow them to determine my future. There is an old song i heard many times in church that said "bring me flowers while I am living...please don't wait until I am gone" There will be a day when you are gone and their opportunity to know and love you will have passed.
2007-01-03 23:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great job Mam, You go Girl. She is your daughter sit her down and lay her a new one. Tell her you haven't raised her to be so criticizing against someone especially it's her son she had him she need to love him how he is. If she does not change tell her ok two can play that game and say you would disown her even though you wont. Also Sit your grandson down and tell him that his moms still loves him she is just experiencing a huge laps of judgment for the time being. And make sure if your daughter does not excepts her responsibility you adopt him as yours and have it in your living or after death will that someone that is in the family that excepts him should gain custody and raise him with full love an devotion to his life and decisions.
2016-05-23 01:59:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about your situation. Have you tried to talk to your son about it? Maybe he can shed some light on why she is like that. If he can't, go directly to the source. Ask your daughter in law what the problem is. I realize that it is so easy to say and so much more difficult to do, but it's got to be done at some point or you run the risk of losing everyone to her. I hope this helps.
2007-01-03 21:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by JustDucky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women are just so hateful and insecure they are monsters, Sadly these same women can and do become our DIL's. My 36 year old monster DIL has 6 years in the navy, a habitat home and a masters degree. She is also a filthy dirty fat pimpled mess. Her home is "take the kids away " filthy and my grandsons often smelled like urine and butt crack smell mixed with the overpowering smell of cigarettes ...regularly. The last time we met for dinner out my husband said no more...the embarrassment of seeing our own son so dirty and with teeth so yellow and the whole family smelling like B.O. dragging her drunken mom who smelled like a old bottle of cheap perfume to cover up her smell was too much...the constant and appalling dishrag personality of them all was too much. The icing on the cake ? They don't appreciate us giving them things and "bribing" them with too much love and gifts so could we please go away forever because mu son says he now realizes he is happy with this thumb your nose to society game...ugh...we cry daily and hate her even more than we knew possible after the boys were held back because she could not stomach us!!...Enough ..they have both lost their minds.
2015-02-08 12:49:50 · answer #4 · answered by Disenchanted American 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear you got a beastly daughter-in-law. I would corner your son (alone) and make him sit down and hear your point.
Whether you are an embarassment or not, your son should have pulled his head out of his a** (or rather hers) and wised up & noticed the problem when she didn't invite you or your dad to the wedding. Embarassment or not (I think not, you sound normal), you are still his mother.
Maybe you could also sit her down and figure out what her major malfunction is. She semms a little off to me anyways.
I hope everything works out for you and don't give up on your son or grandchild.
2007-01-04 00:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenixsong 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK Birdie, here we go. Does she drink alcohol? Do you? And if any of you do, is it excessive?
I had a period in life in which I drank too much, like 23 years of my life. I now have a great period of sobriety and have learned much of myself. i.e. There has always been a part in, which I played, in ALL situations that I wanted to blame solely on others Now, as I look back, I see that in most all situations I had provoked, too some degree, the manner in which others responded to me. I have to always look at my part and accept that it does take two to fight. She did not start acting in an offensive manner to you out of nowhere. Now, you part could be extremely MINOR and she may very well have a problem such as that of an irrational alcoholic. That too was my style of reacting to others. Someone could have farted in a restraunt from the otherside of the dining room and I would have used that as an excuse to retaliate with irrational behavior. Yes, I would have been the '***' in the situation, but they did have a very small part in that. So, if you may discover your part, make it right with her. If she continues this behavior, then let her be the one to suffer over it. Do not give her and space in your head to consume and destroy. Be grateful for waht you have a believe that God Himself is at work in all situations of life. You will be ok and the outcome will be desired.
2007-01-03 21:39:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jekyl and Hyde 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear, dear mother/grandmother, didn't you know that your "work" is and will never be done. Let the little "witch" have her day, yours "will" come. You don't have to say goodbye and don't, always say "love you much" and let it be. Yes it hurts but like labor pains, time will heal that also. Don't stoop to her level, just keep throwing love at her, it will eat her up inside and you will feel so much better. If holding your tongue is what you have to do, (but you really don't have to, just rephrase it). You will be alright and you will have your son/grandson around you. God Bless.
2007-01-03 21:29:20 · answer #7 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about the situation but, it seems to be a very common thing. You can not force her to like you and you have to try and be the better person. Have you spoken with your son about this? Do you have a good relationship with your son? There may be other factors causing this that you do not know about. While talking with them try to understand their point of views and talk it out with them.
2007-01-03 21:31:05 · answer #8 · answered by SparklyThingz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey there
i am really sorry to hear about your situation
i say you have more right over your son and grandson than she does and you know that deep down inside that your son loves you more than he loves her i mean god its like that everywhere you are his mother
i would try to talk to your son about it and if that does not work just hold in all your anger and let it all out when you go to bed by screeming into a pillow as the more love that you show her will only hurt her as she is not getting what she wants
she would just want you to retaliate so that your son cracks he whoops with you and then she gets what she wants but dont give it to her make her suffer
hope this helps you out a bit and i really hope youse work i out soon
from christie
2007-01-03 22:04:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
how crazy that im having issues with my boyfriend of 4 yrs' mother. but his mother has lately done awful things to me because he recently moved two hours away for college and when he visits he stays with me. (we lived together before he left) and its awful that you have to put up with her crap and your son doesnt seem like he isnt doing smack about it. She should always respect your family. but you know what, god has a funny way of working with things and making things happen. So save your goodbyes for another time and hang in there. best wishes
2007-01-03 21:34:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋