I will be moving down south in 4 years away from my family and friends, ( i dont get on with them all that well anyway), but its away from everything i know and it a bit scary. also theres the money issue, where its so expensive to get a house now and all the extra costs cause we are moveing 400 miles away. its just all so stressful and i just panic that we dont have enough money, or my boyfriend doesnt get a decent job. he is from down south so he'll be fine, where as me i wont have any friends, just his family. i really want to go i just panic a little. any ideas how i can make myself feel more positve on the matter? as i have wanted to move since i was young, its just so close now.
2007-01-03 21:21:24 · 14 answers · asked by scorpio 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Stace moving on is part of growing up and belive me it will only make you stronger wiser and more ready for life.Yes you are going to miss home and it will be hard but you will get to know your self more your wiknesses and your strong points and you wont let no body step on you. Its a new world you dont know, no body youl get to express your self more freely and set boudrys and objetives to what you want and hom you are take adventage of it to build up your personality and face the future knowing that if you can make it on your one there wont be nothing you cant do GO for it but go with corage good luck
2007-01-04 02:41:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not hard at all if this is what you really want...I moved from the States 5 years ago. to the UK..I left a good job, great friends and yes...a family I did not get on well with. I focused on all the positives of why I was moving,which helped a great deal. If you already live in the UK and you are only moving miles away...your closer than you think to what you left behind so why panic? If things don't work out you have the choice to either be strong and make the most of it...or move back.By the sounds of it you have 4 years to prepare yourself for this "big move"...I had 30 days...to organise my move...the biggest thing you have to ask yourself is will you have any regrets in the end? I have none, looking back in hind sight now...I would have regret-ed NOT moving....glad I did I'm much happier. No one has enough money no matter what...start saving now for any extra costs, take everything you know with you, that is one thing no one can take from you. Learn about your new surroundings before you move...research, research, research...and when you get there it won't seem so strange to you. Make new friends, you don't get on with the ones you have now. Think outside the box! at the end of the day...there is no "do overs" in life...live life to the fullest, most people are trapped in the area in which they were born and never have the chance you have, be thankful!
2007-01-04 05:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving can be very scary I know from experience because i've done it. Back in 2002 I lived in South Carolina but got tired of living there. I packed up my Explorer and drove up to Michigan all by myself to start a new life. It was very difficult and a scary new experience. I was only 25 and had absolutely no family around me whatsoever.
After a couple of months I was able to adjust and get used to my new life. I even have my father up here with me now so that I am able to visit him on weekly basis.
Its not a bad experience. The only thing that I would recommend for you is that you have a job lined up before you move and have some place to stay. It took me 3 months to find my first job once I moved up here and that job was working part time at a movie threatre.
Good luck to you.
2007-01-04 06:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your move is in four years, that is a long time, and things can change in that time. so, i wouldn't worry so much from now til then what you should do. just enjoy each day, and see what happens when the time comes, your heart will tell you what to do. it's different for everyone when they go through a change in their life. but life is what YOU make it. if you love your boyfriend, this will be a great adventure and a new beginning for you both - sure, it's scary, but, that's what makes life interesting. God has a way of taking care of us, so don't ever be afraid of change. take a chance or you'll never know whether you did the right thing or not. good luck.
2007-01-04 08:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did the same some years ago and it was a lot of miles more than u . i know how u feel as it was the same for me . a bit of excitement , a bit scared , twisted feelings somehow
but all will go fine , dont worry .... i would do it again as u are dealing with new experiences , u get to know new people
dont panic and let urself enjoy this new chapter in life
all the best and good luck to u !
2007-01-04 05:28:12 · answer #5 · answered by athina68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Stace,
sorry to hear that your in a tizzy over moving down here.
It will be hard yes, but we're harmless enough.
which County are you moving too? I'm from Gloucestershire, and it's a beautiful,
you've got 4 years to go and a lot can happen in that time my love. Don't worry too much about it until it happens.
Come down and have a holiday in the area that you are moving to, familiarise yourself and get to know a bit about where you'll be living.
I'm sure you'll be fine.
Good luck.
2007-01-05 02:54:41 · answer #6 · answered by HowdoIknowthat?? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to adjust your point of view and look on it as an exciting ADVENTURE! Stay out of debt - eat beans every night if you have too, but you can have fun cheaply and you may look back on it as the most exciting thing you ever did. You'll make friends, just learn to smile at people, people who work in the shops near where you live and your boyfriends friends will soon become yours too. Have a brilliant life!
2007-01-04 07:21:11 · answer #7 · answered by Em 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ihad to do that. I get along with my family, but my boyfriend (now husband) had to move about 6 hours away from where we were and I followed. It was not much fun at first, I missed friends and stuff, but they come to visit, I go see them, and I have made lovely new friends here too. Its a hard adjustment, but one I found entirely worth it.
2007-01-04 06:13:09 · answer #8 · answered by jacks my boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently moved overseas, far away from all my family and friends ( 2 months ago ). It is really fun and interesting but you will miss your family and friends. You must have something WORTH moving and staying for otherwise it wont work. It also helps a lot to move with a partner or friend.
2007-01-04 05:54:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not that hard for some people. I would love to move now with my dog. I believe it depends mostly on the reason you are moving cause if it has anything to do with issues TRUST ME they will just follow you anyway. If you have someone that you are going with than it will be alot easier cause you will have that special someone to hold onto when you feel lonely. Good luck!!
2007-01-04 05:42:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋