I have spoken to my boyfriend about marriage but he keeps on leaving it on the back burner. And i don't want to bug him about it, but i will be turning 25 and i would like to be married by 26, well at least by 27. I think about having kids and i know he wants them too. He tells me he wants to marry me but when? and its not coming because i know he bought himself a new car that cost a lot of money and since he is living at home he told me that he is ok with throwing all that money one time. and of course its his to throw. should and talk to him about ? Should i put a little more pressure or should i wait? and if so for how long?
2007-01-03 21:14:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As you have told him several times and he left it on the back burner, i think he wants to refuse it or does not love you as you do.10 years is too long for being clear about your relationship and it is strange why he has not thought about you seriously.
You should talk to him clearly for the last talk to make a decision.Some times it is hard to accept the truth , maybe im right.
Talk to him seriously and make everything clear for yourself.If you want to wait and wait you will be loser .Make clear your life and dont think you will lose him.It is better to lose hime but knowing that his love was not real you would be happy .
Good luck.
2007-01-03 21:45:16 · answer #1 · answered by Elham 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not for everyone. Many people live together for years with out being married. Some people have a fear of marriage. Have you talked with him about his reasoning for waiting? Try not to make him feel like you are interrogating him. Maybe you should take the next step and try setting a date but, I would not push him too much. Be patient and try not to assume that because he spent the money on the car that he doesn't have something up his sleeve (proposal).
2007-01-04 05:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by SparklyThingz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are in trouble with this guy, if after 10 years together it has still not dawned on him to contract a legally binding marriage with you, but just keep you on as what, a concubine, a mistress...? If I were you, I would give him a deadline, after which I would pack up and seek better luck elsewhere. He may be taking you for a ride, and the earlier you alighted from this vehicle, the better for you. Good luck!
2007-01-04 05:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by Paleologus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That you have been with him from the adolescent age of fourteen is ridiculous and shameful enough. Further more why should you expect him to anxiously jump at the idea of marriage now when for ten years he has had everything he could desire from you and nothing is new any more. What advice are you even soliciting?
2007-01-04 05:48:51 · answer #4 · answered by aminu2763 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so he wont answer direct to weather he will marry you, both of you sit down and mention about getting engagged and you could why dont we stay engagged for about 1 year? while you mention that get him to set a date for i dunno say 1 year later but make sure yous both agree on it, that way your engagged and you have a date set in ur mind to look forward to, if you feel like he does not seem interested then i would not waste my time asking anymore and just accept ur going to be another long term girlfriend. as for kids hmm i would get married first then think about having the kids when thats all sorted out. good luck
2007-01-04 05:20:50 · answer #5 · answered by ice_castles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need to talk to him clearly what you've planned for your life. If he asks you for some times, ask him how long does he need exactly. This's not only your problem, but also his. You're going to live and spend yr lives together. You cannot just wait. That won't help!
2007-01-04 05:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
based on what little you said he doesn't sound ready, or that marriage is anywhere on his radar. pressuring him won't do any good. if he doesn't want to get married and you force it, don't expect total bliss. if you are certain about what you want i suggest giving him an ultimatum. tell him the truth. if he doesn't want the same things you do you should both stop wasting eachother's time and move on.
2007-01-04 05:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by origchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be asking what will you do if he's not going to marry you?
Are your bags packed and ready to go?
10 years and no target date set in sight. Looks dismal. If I were you, I'll start looking for options.
2007-01-04 05:27:54 · answer #8 · answered by Marshal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 24 and have been with him 4 10 years... wow, you must hav been like 14 when u started out or something close to that.. i say go for it... but first get him in a good mood..
2007-01-04 05:17:50 · answer #9 · answered by homer_1561 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put a bit more pressure BUT not too much. act moody and see if he asks u. if not then u need to shape him up~
2007-01-04 05:17:50 · answer #10 · answered by SmilE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋