my daughter and my new partner have difficulty in getting on the problem is that my daughter demands alot of attention as does my partner.To this extent i am being torn between them,I love them both dearly but this is really starting to get to me my daughter is only six and i have been split from her mother for two years now,my partner knew i had children before i met her but has no problem in getting on with my son who is four.Is there an easy answer to this?please help.
2007-01-03 21:09:37 · 11 answers · asked by MAYDAY 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
wow 2 demanding women. Sounds like theres not much room for you. Any grown women who competes with a 6 year old child has a loose screw. You should think about that. Keep in mind your child doesnt have choices about who you are with. I dont believe in a child running things but your partner sounds selfish. I say back off and take time for yourself and figure out what you really want.
2007-01-03 21:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Suggest an activity your daughter enjoys that your new partner can do with her. This will give them a chance to get to know each other. If your daughter's mom is still in her life, explain that your new partner is not trying to be her new mom. Talk with her and find out why she doesn't like your partner. Include your daughter in decisions about what to do, this will make her feel good. And don't forget that she will need "daddy" time too, away from your partner; an evening out for the adults too as long as you have a sitter she likes. Good luck
2007-01-03 21:20:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children should always come first but there should be a point of happiness... Maybe spend time with both of them together.
For example when you watch tv cuddle both of them etc...
It would be hard for you daughter especially if she is close to your ex as she may feel this new person is intruding and may be hard to get over. Try talking to your new partner and daughter together and work out a system or some rules or possibly even a reward system,. If worst comes to worst consider family counselling its a sticky situation and i wish you the best of luck
2007-01-03 21:51:03 · answer #3 · answered by angelicrulz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can so relate to you. My daughter & my partner did not get on when we met (she was 3) & still don't 7 years later. I now have 2 other children with this partner. After years of feeling torn & trying to discipline my child to suit my partner i decided that it was infact my partner who was the adult & he was responsible for nurturing this relationship. Instead he fought for my attention as much as she did. Your partner may be acting a little inmature. Please don't allow this to go on & destroy your relationship with your daughter as this is much more important & you don't want her resenting you in years to come. Some counselling may be helpful. If your partner is very new maybe you could just give it a bit more time to settle. Good luck!
2007-01-03 22:20:13 · answer #4 · answered by Mishell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to do what you can to get your daughter to get along with your girlfriend. I understand how your daughter feels my mom was a single mom so her dating was hard for me to understand i felt that she didn't care for me as much as her bf and that she might end up dumping me on a relative and runoff with him. I now know that these were silly thoughts and that i let my imagination run wild. Sit down with your daughter ask her why she doesnt get along with your girl friend. Let her know that you are always gonna put her and her brother first and that she and her brother could never be replaced in your heart.
2007-01-04 08:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by nobody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single parent and as hard as it is even if I really like the person and care about him. If he can't get along with my daughter or my daughter doesn't like him. It is so long. Your children should come first.
2007-01-04 01:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by his wife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say your daughter is so confused as to who your partner is and why her mommy isn't there with you. Maybe your daughter dosen't want her around, she wants her momy and daddy to be together. I don't know what to tell you. Your son is 4 and dosen't understand so that is why he is getting along with her.
You will have to pick your daughter over everyone else, try to explain it to her.
2007-01-03 21:21:46 · answer #7 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think ur child maybe thinks that ur new partner might have contributed to ur separation with her mother that is my she has negative attitude towards ur partner and she thinks because she lost her mother.... she dont wanna lose u too that is why she is behaving like that, she think ur partner is going to take u away from her.
2007-01-03 21:26:42 · answer #8 · answered by Boozie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your partner.. She is the matured one who has to understand things. You said she already know about your children.. She has to know the consequences of what she's in to. If she'll be good to your children, they will like her eventually.
2007-01-03 21:24:11 · answer #9 · answered by Mya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your children first.
They are totally dependent on you.
2007-01-04 04:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by Char 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋