I met this man, he is very intelligent and always has broad shoulders for me to lean on when i need it. He is in the process of getting divorced, it has nothing to do with me, i met him after the process of divorce began. I see him regularly, at least once a day. Nothing happened as yet, becuase i cant see myself getting seriously involved with this man. My question: Should i just grab the oppurtunity to be happy or live with doubts if i let this slip away?
2007-01-03 20:55:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends. If he is at a stage in his life where he does not want the things you want, say he doesn't want a family and you do, or he's ready to settle down and you're just into dating, then it is less than advisable but I wouldn't completely advise against it. Also if you don't think it's ever going to get too serious, then sure it's advisable. It really just depends on those things.
2007-01-03 20:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lot's Wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you are. The older you are, the less it matters for the comparable amount of life experience that you have. If you are 14, for example, it's not advisable. If the life experience gap is not drastic that drastic, I believe in May-December romances just as any other.
I would wait til the divroce is done to continue seeing this man because until then he legally and spiritually belongs to someone else. And, of course, there is that situation where the divorce never becomes final and a lovely heart such as your own is stringed along- and we dont want that.
Good luck
2007-01-04 05:01:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think something could come of it and you have feelings for each other, go for it. Just make sure the divorce process is really under way, they don't live together, etc. My fiance is 12 years older than me and was also in the process of being divorced when I met him. I know so many couples with a large age difference that are the happiest couples I know.
2007-01-04 05:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by Grace1228 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more or less the same thoughts were troubling me some 2 years ago. I had a friend 14 years older, he was the only male friend I had at the time. we would have great conversations, we trusted each other and various times he would through a hint or two. he was shy and he was saying things to see my reaction, like when r we going to get married etc. then I thought that he was joking but now I think that he was just saying things like that to see my reaction. then I was also thinking about having a relationship with him but I never did anything more. the age difference was definitely a factor that always held me back, even though I knew that we could be happy together. tha last two years he distant himself from me. I lost a friend. I'm afraid the decision is up to you
2007-01-04 05:12:11 · answer #4 · answered by Alexia L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are of legal age, enjoy life, if he makes you happy, go for it. No one can advise you - they can just make their suggestions, the answer is yours, the life is yours. You only live once, be happy in it. God Bless.
2007-01-04 05:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's had a lot of experience in life, you haven't, he's been married, you probanly haven't been, he's 14 yrs your senior, you are 14 yrs his junior.
Lol, go for someone you have a lot in common with.
2007-01-04 05:02:29 · answer #6 · answered by stiletto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy is in the middle of a divorce. find someone without so much recent baggage.
2007-01-04 05:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by origchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're older than 18, then just follow your heart.
2007-01-04 04:57:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think twice before taking any step.
2007-01-04 05:04:30 · answer #9 · answered by aramaiya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋