He used to try his best to talk to me, dance wih me in the group. But now after I started chatting with him, smsg him & calling him up. He has started avoiding me & acts as though I just an ordinary person to him. I mentioned too once that i like him & he said that he does not want to get into a relationship soon atleast till one year & he suggessted me the same. But I like him a lot. what do I do? Please suggesst.
2007-01-03 20:44:47 · 11 answers · asked by Meagan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Meagan, you are not going to like this answer, however, to be honest you sometimes have to hurt. I think that your ego has been hurt because he has rejected your advances. Now you are desperately trying to get him at all cost. (How dare he!!!) Honey, do yourself a favour…cut out the ego and restore parity. He has been man enough to tell you the truth, respect his wishes. Remember he could have played along with you used you and then ditched you, however, he did not, this in it’s self, should tell you that he likes and respects you. Now you give him his space, respect his wishes and just be casual buddies. Who knows one year down the line what sparks may start flying? Trust me you will be better off being his when he wants you, then being his when he is clearly not ready for a relationship. Good Luck!
2007-01-03 21:46:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a problem with all of us. When we are in love, we seem to go totally out of our senses and every thing or act of his/her seems to be confirming that the beloved is also reciprocating - be it even the way of talking to us or looking at us. In fact, we start imagining a lot. I am afraid; the situation explained seems like that only. In addition to that, you have expressed your feelings too soon and also sent him SMS (though we are not aware of the contents) a bit too early.
As you have not mentioned your age (or his either), there is a doubt whether he is really avoiding you or he is not very comfortable with idea of 'relationship' with a girl at 'this age'. In any case, no need to worry about it, if you are major and your applicable norms do not hinder the relationship. As he has suggeted you not to get into a relationship, you should honour the idea for a while. You may tone down your present level of interaction & communication with him. At some later stage, just talk to him disspassionately and try to find out the reasons for his stand. Only then you can take some decision.
Best Wishes...
2007-01-04 05:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by sharma.kulbhushan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear M,
I wish you a better life.I am sure that you are young and you are still a student of may be secondary school.Do you think it is the right time to think of such sort of relationship?Do you think you will continue your relation to be long lasting or only for a while?I advise you please use the time this boy suggested.Think of carefully this gap to think of what your life like to be in the future.
Please avoid this temporary feelings from your mind.Let God help you the whole of your life.
2007-01-04 05:03:11 · answer #3 · answered by girum_tadesse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain as I was in similar situation. A girl kept giving signals to me that she is desperate to talk to me. But when I went to talk to her she just rudely refused to even talk. Later I learned that she was having some affair and was not from very educated background. I felt stunned but moved on in life. At least I cleared my mind.
I suggest you do the same. Ask him clearly and on his face of he likes you and want to be with you. And is he in any relationship. If he explains you properly, accept his answer gracefully. If he is rude, don't give a damn to him. In both the cases, you move on as there many. If everything goes right, you have him :-)
So clear your mind and tell him. Ask him to answer you clearly too.
2007-01-04 04:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by Infinite 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont do anything. Just leave him. U know ladaka , bas or train ek nahi to dusra mil jata he. Yaar be happy and enjoy ur life. Have a nice day !
2007-01-04 05:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by Harshal M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whn u ve already said tht u like him n he refusd.. thn mite be he be intrestd in ur frndship.. a very gud 1.. so if nt a bf he cn be ur frnd.. n u knw frndship is much much bettr thn luv.. u conti likin him bt AS a frnd.. jus' a gud, darlin frnd.. tis' was jus' a suggestion do as ur heart says.. best of luck.. hope u tke a rite decision..
2007-01-04 05:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by princess is here 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep Loving him for one year, he will respond if he starts loving you. Wait there is no need to rush if you are not in hurry to marry.
Do not push your envelope it might get you on the wrong side.
2007-01-04 08:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should avoid him too. Then you'll see the change - he'll become curious and he'll want to come close to u and would want to find why u r not talking to him.
2007-01-04 04:53:58 · answer #8 · answered by diva s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait a year for him but while ur waiting, date someone else. try to make it look like u dont care about him anymore
hell come around soon(hopefully)
2007-01-04 05:19:56 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Ryan&&♫ Music= MY LiFE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
respect his feelings he was too straight forward. if there is something between u two it is bound to happen. god bless you
2007-01-04 05:41:09 · answer #10 · answered by yourfreind_forlife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋