I don't know what to do, me and my brother have worked together in the evening for about a year now and we both still live at home however i am hoping to move out soon cos i am just getting so fed up with him. He's 35 and i'm 27. The thing is a guy started at work about 7 months ago and since then me and him have got on really well. We've been out a few times as friends but i have developed strong feelings for him and i am getting the feeling he likes me too. But my brother just hates it! He is the most jealous person i have ever known, he can be spiteful and vindictive. Because he hasn't got any friends or girlfriend he won't let me either. I am worried that he is going to say something to my guy friend and turn him against me. If i talk to him he might go and have it out with my brother but then my brother's said if he ever did he'd have us all out of a job. What can i do, it's so difficult cos i get it at home and work and it really makes me upset. Sorry for this being long!
2007-01-03 20:42:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell the guy that you are talking about that your brother may try something. Also tell him that if he does just pay no mind to it, that your brother is jealous. This will do two things. One let the guy know that the brother is trying something. Two if the guy really likes you he will not engage in a confrontation with your brother over the facts. He will respect your thoughts of keeping it as civil as possible and thus will not react to your brothers accusations. Whatever they may be.
2007-01-03 20:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by miliardo_by_moonlight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about what your brother is up to. He really needs to get a life and stop interfering in yours.
It must be quite a cold situation at home you are facing. I suggest, u do try to find your independence, by maybe moving out etc., but before that, talk to your guy-friend and tell him some of your fears and feelings.
I think if he is an understanding and caring friend, he will feel for you and support you in this dilemma.
But, be tactful when you tell him, and diplomatic, because I'm sure you wouldn't want your own person (your bro) to look too idiotic, he's Your brother after all. So, tell your friend in a nice but sad way that this pains you and you would appreciate it if he supports you. A loving friend surely will!
I'm sure things will be fine, just talk it over in the right way. And you don't have to let your bro meddle in your affairs. On the other hand, maybe you could try to get him to something interesting, like introduce him to a lady friend etc.
Good luck.. and God bless u
2007-01-03 21:14:58 · answer #2 · answered by just me.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, move out. It'll be easier to talk to him when you don't share a roof. The try to talk to him about how you feel about your friend. Do this on a Friday. From what you say, he'll probably explode but at least you would not have to face him on that day and the rest of the weekend. Hope that by Monday he would be a bit calm. Then on Monday, try to organise that the two of you share a meal and talk about this. Always make him feel important so that he should know that he has your unconditional love and respect as a brother and you still rely on him to give you advice which is up to you to accept. Unless the outcome of discussions with him would require otherwise, say nothing about your friend and your feelings to him. Just work on your relationship with the guy.
I know it's a big shot but it'll be in your and your brother's interest that your romance with this guy does not sour your relations. Or at least you should be certain that you tried your best to make the two to co-exist. Only if your brother still insist on getting his way at the expense of your happiness should you start looking for alternative job. Good luck!
2007-01-03 21:02:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes big brothers can be a pain. I know because mine is. He's not quite as bad as yours but close to it. You need to sit him down and let him know how much this is bothering you. You can't go on this way with all the stress at home and work. That will put you right in the psychiatric hospital. If your bro loves you he might back off and let you have a life. Just try to do it calmly or if you feel you cant do it face to face write him a letter and poor your heart out to him. Make sure you tell him you love him and he means the world to you but you would like a chance with this guy and you can't stand the thought of him,your brother, being upset with you. Hope this helps a little and I'm glad it's you and not me having to deal with big brother. Sorry.
2007-01-03 20:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Sorry about that. I don't understand how you can fake a pregnancy if you are really pregnant. Why would your school think you faked a pregnancy. As far as him taking your telephone and sending messages - make sure you get a password protected account so no one can send a text message without a password first. How can you be punished for being accused of theft - there had to have been some evidence. If you were wrong accused / convicted - get a lawyer. If your friends and your boyfriend don't believe it when you tell them the truth - then you need better friends / boyfriend. Tell your family you are going on strike until they hear your side of the story. Or, you could do everything he has done to him. Or, you could tape him doing something bad and blackmail him to telling everyone it was his fault. Otherwise, just wait until you grow up and move out of your home. Success is the best revenge. Peace.
2016-05-23 01:57:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a really tough situation. My only advice is to work these problems out with your brother through conversation. He sounds like a little kid. I could tell you to move out and quite your job - but I don't know enough about your situation. It sounds tough.
Good Luck!!!
2007-01-03 20:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your brother is overprotective and maybe he thinks he'll be replaced by this new guy. But you need to let him know that you're a grown woman and you have your own life. He needs to get a life of his own and not to mention a girl.
2007-01-03 20:55:16 · answer #7 · answered by Oliver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive and sympathy your lonely brother, find the way to support and resolve the loneliness for him, help him to find some friends for himself, and then he will leave you alone
2007-01-03 20:58:29 · answer #8 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
!!!!!!!!! towards a sister !!!!!!!!!! , what a hell of him, let him do whatever he does and you do your own. find a good job - there is ur guy friend to help you.
2007-01-03 20:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by ngg_ghimire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I put out the bear traps and get my gun...That'll show him.
2007-01-03 20:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋